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I've been here 12 yrs (embarrassing to admit that) and I don't remember ever leaving a rep without signing it.
So.... if you get a nasty rep from me at least let ya know it was me.
I've received a few nasty reps without a name but sometimes you can tell who it is by the thread and what's going on, sometimes anyways.
It's the height of spinelessness to me to do that. Nut up or shut up.
I only very recently figured out how to leave notes with rep points, but I've never sent snarky comments with mine, as it seemed a bit weird to take the opportunity to criticise someone while giving rep points. I'd rather do that openly on the thread, with no rep points given
I only very recently figured out how to leave notes with rep points, but I've never sent snarky comments with mine, as it seemed a bit weird to take the opportunity to criticise someone while giving rep points. I'd rather do that openly on the thread, with no rep points given
LOL, yeah. It's funny, my posting history has the bulk of my posts here in Relationships sub-forum. I used to always never post in POC because it can get nasty. I find myself over there more now because after posting here for so long I find that most of the threads here in Relationship forum aren't real. Most of them are simply vehicles for mostly young men to vent against those evil nasty wominez.
I have a theory on what so many young men are so disenfranchised but I wonder what is happening to our society on this level.
I've spent a bulk of my working career in a mostly male dominated field and I've also spent nearly 25 plus years working with young men, mentoring them in work issues and also sometimes sneaking in life lesson type of things. I was a senior guy in my last position/company and worked with many many young 20's something guys and you know what? I've never rarely ever seen anything from these men that I see here on this forum.
Granted it's a working type of relationship but after a while you can tell how people think, if you listen. If you listen people tell you how they are, I think Maya Angelou said that, LOL, I don't know, but it's true. I don't understand what is happening with young men these days.
I'm hoping it's just a squeaky wheel type of deal, that loudest voices that get heard. I hope it is because otherwise we're going in the wrong direction.
Lol. I had one, too on the closed thread about women making false accusations and I had the same reaction. I wonder if it was from the same person.
Same thread.
I've been observing in some other areas of discussion around CDland (and social discourse, especially online, in general) that there is such a mindset with regard to so many things, where it's like team sports. Declaring oneself a member of one camp, and having irrational levels of hate and hostility for whatever you see as the opposition, to the point where folks seem like logic and reason is driven right out of their heads. This isn't just in the gender war, but politics and various things. It's wild and bizarre to me. And it often seems like very contrived hostility. Engineered for a purpose.
I've been observing in some other areas of discussion around CDland (and social discourse, especially online, in general) that there is such a mindset with regard to so many things, where it's like team sports. Declaring oneself a member of one camp, and having irrational levels of hate and hostility for whatever you see as the opposition, to the point where folks seem like logic and reason is driven right out of their heads. This isn't just in the gender war, but politics and various things. It's wild and bizarre to me. And it often seems like very contrived hostility. Engineered for a purpose.
Every so often when I'm bored I'll go read stuff in the POC forum here, and it's just the Wild West. It's the worst (or maybe best?) example of toxic online conversation. Nobody wants to have a reasonable conversation, it's just finger pointing and nastiness and hitting all the buzz words of whatever side they're on. Are these real people out walking amongst us?
Every so often when I'm bored I'll go read stuff in the POC forum here, and it's just the Wild West. It's the worst (or maybe best?) example of toxic online conversation. Nobody wants to have a reasonable conversation, it's just finger pointing and nastiness and hitting all the buzz words of whatever side they're on. Are these real people out walking amongst us?
I work closely with one and have to endure his political views EVERY SINGLE DAY. Unfortunately he's my direct supervisor and I'm stuck.
I've ranted about him before. I keep politics out of the workplace as much as I can, but IDK, this guy has no self-awareness of how he comes off.
Every so often when I'm bored I'll go read stuff in the POC forum here, and it's just the Wild West. It's the worst (or maybe best?) example of toxic online conversation. Nobody wants to have a reasonable conversation, it's just finger pointing and nastiness and hitting all the buzz words of whatever side they're on. Are these real people out walking amongst us?
It's a pigsty over there....especially when it's concerning racial issues. I've never seen so many people of one race claiming to know more about issues going on in another racial community. It's ridiculous. I lose brain cells every time I click on the forum link. I don't mind politics or other sensitive topics, but people can't have a conversation without getting emotional and hurling insults. Ugh.....
It's a pigsty over there....especially when it's concerning racial issues. I've never seen so many people of one race claiming to know more about issues going on in another racial community. It's ridiculous. I lose brain cells every time I click on the forum link. I don't mind politics or other sensitive topics, but people can't have a conversation without getting emotional and hurling insults. Ugh.....
Every so often when I'm bored I'll go read stuff in the POC forum here, and it's just the Wild West. It's the worst (or maybe best?) example of toxic online conversation. Nobody wants to have a reasonable conversation, it's just finger pointing and nastiness and hitting all the buzz words of whatever side they're on. Are these real people out walking amongst us?
Ha! Me too Me too,(oops!) I can't bring myself to comment there. If a thread I like to be involved with gets moved to POC, it's just oh well, nice knowing ya! Byeee! And I am well equipped to deal with insanity. Just, why though.
There are two ways to give people reps. On the bottom left of their comment, there's a spot that reads, "rate this post positively" with a little + sign. Then there's a scales of justice deal in the top right side. If you click on that, a field open's up where you can leave a comment. I often do, though mine a positive and I sign them.
Thanks Homina! I tried the scales thingy but couldn't rep you again.
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Byeee! And I am well equipped to deal with insanity. Just, why though.
