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But there is something about young, teen love that you cannot replicate into adulthood. It is innocent, carefree, and spontaneous. It occurred during a time when both were just "kids" and they were naive. It is sweet in itself.
A common theme in movies is reuniting with an old flame from childhood. And it fills the heart with joy.
I saw the movie "Norbit" yestarday, and that was the plot.
You see movies like the Notebook too where two young lovers meet and they grow old together.
It is the most desirable outcome.
By your own account.
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Originally Posted by Allhopelost
I am 21, almost 22, and I have never had a girlfriend.
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You have no knowledge or experience. This or any of the other incarnations here. It is the same tiresome story that boarders in statuary rape. If you act in this it messes up the rest of your life.
You're basing your knowledge of young love not only on movies, but on movies like Norbit? Good lord. Movies aren't real. Young love isn't necessarily pure and wonderful, it's just as likely to be awkward and immature.
But it is still a common theme. And there must be a reason why this common theme exists. It is sweet and fills the heart with good emotions.
The most perfect relationships are those where two kids meet when they are younger, fall in love, and love each other until they are old.
You also hear heart warming stories about young couples who break up for whatever reason, and they meet up again later in life and fall more in love than they did before. A lot of it too is because they experienced their youth together.
The famous pop singer, Adele, always sings about an old flame of hers.
There is that song "Strawberry Wine" that talks about being 17 and experiemcing young love.
Infamous psychologist, Nancy Kalish, from the University of Southern California researched this for decades. She came to find out the importance of first love. It shapes us.
But it is still a common theme. And there must be a reason why this common theme exists. It is sweet and fills the heart with good emotions.
The most perfect relationships are those where two kids meet when they are younger, fall in love, and love each other until they are old.
You also hear heart warming stories about young couples who break up for whatever reason, and they meet up again later in life and fall more in love than they did before. A lot of it too is because they experienced their youth together.
The famous pop singer, Adele, always sings about an old flame of hers.
There is that song "Strawberry Wine" that talks about being 17 and experiemcing young love.
Infamous psychologist, Nancy Kalish, from the University of Southern California researched this for decades. She came to find out the importance of first love. It shapes us.
It exists because people look back on their pasts with rose-colored glasses and who doesn't like a happy story?
Come on. There's just as much negative as positive in those early relationships. It's a complete mixed bag. Sometimes, the good outweighs the bad. Sometimes not.
I recall having major butterflies in 7th grade when boy a few years older than me stole a kiss while we were watching the boys in our neighborhood play football.
I was on Cloud 9 for a few days over that. But, it was the first time some guy did that. I think back fondly about him (only when reminded, though, this was years ago), even though he was a bit of a cad and years later, he made this obvious to me when he tried to get me to have sex with him while he was dating and serious about the woman he later married. I was 16 at the time and he was 19.
Soooo... my point is, this isn't even the first guy I would have referred to as "relationship" for we had no relationship other than being friends for awhile.
There are all sorts of random encounters like that that people COULD have. Or not.
You are obsessing about the stupidest thing I've ever read in here. And I have read some doozies.
I think this idea is even more bizarre than guys who cannot get over an ex that their GF was having wild sex with because their GF is more tame now. Because, that makes just the tiniest bit of sense, even though I think they should get over that, too.
You literally want some sort of puppy love thing you saw in movies. You don't want a real relationship with an actual young woman who cares about you.
Seek help.
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Infamous psychologist, Nancy Kalish, from the University of Southern California researched this for decades. She came to find out the importance of first love. It shapes us.
Read it again. It shapes you but doesn't define you. We are all products of a history of experiences but we are not defined by them.
If you look at this girl and define her has "spoiled" because of her past love, that is your problem. If all she is to you is a tainted being because of her past, then she deserves someone who loves her for who she is now; past and all. This also means by your own standards you are also "spoiled" because you've just had your first as well.
But it is still a common theme. And there must be a reason why this common theme exists. It is sweet and fills the heart with good emotions.
The most perfect relationships are those where two kids meet when they are younger, fall in love, and love each other until they are old.
You also hear heart warming stories about young couples who break up for whatever reason, and they meet up again later in life and fall more in love than they did before. A lot of it too is because they experienced their youth together.
The famous pop singer, Adele, always sings about an old flame of hers.
There is that song "Strawberry Wine" that talks about being 17 and experiemcing young love.
Infamous psychologist, Nancy Kalish, from the University of Southern California researched this for decades. She came to find out the importance of first love. It shapes us.
OK. I agree (for the sake of this discussion) that young love is best and the ideal relationship is one where people meet and fall in love in their teens and remain together. Forever.
And you can't have that. All kinds of good things are possible for you, but not that. So all hope is lost for you finding that one, highly idealized kind of love. It won't happen.
You have no knowledge or experience. This or any of the other incarnations here. It is the same tiresome story that boarders in statuary rape. If you act in this it messes up the rest of your life.
Smart. Really ****ing smart.
The only possible way out of this is death. Because maybe, just maybe, there is a possibility of living a new life and starting over.
But the death would have to be by involuntary means, like a traumatic accident or a terminal illnese, because if I committed suicide, the same problems will just follow me to my next life.
You literally want some sort of puppy love thing you saw in movies. You don't want a real relationship with an actual young woman who cares about you.
It's up there with people who expect relationships to be like romance novels or romantic comedies (or worse, porn) and let life go by because they can never be happy with how real people really are.
The reason that stories about first loves reuniting is noteworthy is because it rarely works out that way. Most first loves are best left in the past and aren't worth rekindling.
OK. I agree (for the sake of this discussion) that young love is best and the ideal relationship is one where people meet and fall in love in their teens and remain together. Forever.
And you can't have that. All kinds of good things are possible for you, but not that. So all hope is lost for you finding that one, highly idealized kind of love. It won't happen.
So what are you going to do?
I asked earlier and still awaiting a reply mate......
Put down the remote and step away from the TV. Real life and real love is nothing like you see on the tube man.
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