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I probably did equal amount of online and not online during my single and dating years. Not a lot of difference, IMO. The main advantage of online dating is that it allows you quicker access to more people looking to date than waiting for them to more organically cross your path. My husband lived about 5 miles from me, but its highly unlikely we'd have ever met had I not noticed his profile on a dating site and written him.
Well technically this happens in real life as well.... If someone approaches someone else that they don't know it's usually if they like the look of you first
Yes and that way just cuts out all of this other stuff. Those meeting online do not really know what they are getting into from what I've seen reported. Besides searching through profiles, planning to meet, preparing to do so, then finding out they are not really a reflection of what was depicted online, being disappointed. On to the next. I guess has worked for some, but seems to be a lot of work, when people appear to be mostly concerned with appearance, anyway.
Yes and that way just cuts out all of this other stuff. Those meeting online do not really know what they are getting into from what I've seen reported. Besides searching through profiles, planning to meet, preparing to do so, then finding out they are not really a reflection of what was depicted online, being disappointed. On to the next. I guess has worked for some, but seems to be a lot of work, when people appear to be mostly concerned with appearance, anyway.
If I was actually looking for long term ^^^^ is why I won't do online and one of the main reasons why it's not worth my time
I know it works for some which I'm happy for of course and don't get me wrong I've got every confidence in myself so sure it would work for me , but you can't beat in person IMO plus you know within seconds if the Sparks there or not.
That's why I'll stick to being out going, meeting people and trying my luck that way..... It's worked so far so why change it?.
The only two main advantages that I can see in online is that if you're very particular or don't have the time to socialise you can filter or if you're looking for a no strings shag it seems a haven.
For anyone who feels this way about OLD: you may be right, you may be wrong, but it doesn't matter...this is how you feel about it, so don't do it. Why drive yourself crazy? Meet people in other ways. There's no sense continuing with something that just isn't working for you. Life's short. Don't make yourself crazy!
to say that only pics matter is probably one of the silliest and factually incorrect things I've read in a while.
I would say your
photo(s)
height
weight / body type
age
job / income
determine 99% of your success. And the first 4 of those are physical characteristics. All 5 of them are unrelated to personlity. It's a pipe dream for someone who isn't physically attractrive to believe that through online dating sites they will be able find people who care about their personality first and foremost.
For anyone who feels this way about OLD: you may be right, you may be wrong, but it doesn't matter...this is how you feel about it, so don't do it. Why drive yourself crazy? Meet people in other ways. There's no sense continuing with something that just isn't working for you. Life's short. Don't make yourself crazy!
Exactly
Plus with all the frustration, anguish and disappointment ........ When they do go for a new fist date all this will be as clear as day and their date will notice so they won't be as enthusiastic as they would be.
Which of is not only their problem but unfair on who they meet
Here's the thing--pix do matter but I'm not writing to the best looking men on there b/c I'm not the best looking woman on there. What they write in their profile is much more important. Also, I'm not looking for the handsomest man but someone who is trim and doesn't look like he'd embarrass me to introduce to friends and family.
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I would say your
photo(s)
height
weight / body type
age
job / income
determine 99% of your success. And the first 4 of those are physical characteristics. All 5 of them are unrelated to personlity. It's a pipe dream for someone who isn't physically attractrive to believe that through online dating sites they will be able find people who care about their personality first and foremost.
If this was true I wouldn't have any success, but I do. Multiple good dates a week are easy.
People write me, good people, well educated, physically good looking, professional people write me because they like my profile.
I write to some people because of the same thing. I click on them because of the match percentages.
Yes and that way just cuts out all of this other stuff. Those meeting online do not really know what they are getting into from what I've seen reported. Besides searching through profiles, planning to meet, preparing to do so, then finding out they are not really a reflection of what was depicted online, being disappointed. On to the next. I guess has worked for some, but seems to be a lot of work, when people appear to be mostly concerned with appearance, anyway.
Yep. If you're not someone who's attractive, then you have to go through the process of creating a profile that exaggerates your traits or hides your unattractive traits, organizing meetups with people who wouldn't give you the time of day if you tried to flirt with them in real life, and hoping they overlook the fact that you aren't what they pictured. Personally, I would rather someone know upfront what I look like, how I carry myself and so on.
Yep. If you're not someone who's attractive, then you have to go through the process of creating a profile that exaggerates your traits or hides your unattractive traits, organizing meetups with people who wouldn't give you the time of day if you tried to flirt with them in real life, and hoping they overlook the fact that you aren't what they pictured. Personally, I would rather someone know upfront what I look like, how I carry myself and so on.
Okay, again, so then why are you worrying with this? Don't do OLD.
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Why drive yourself crazy? Meet people in other ways. There's no sense continuing with something that just isn't working for you. Life's short. Don't make yourself crazy!
