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I have been dating a guy for 3 weeks. At first everything was perfect, he was super nice, super social, caring and etc.
After the first date he told me "If we end up being in a relationship", then he said "If we end up getting engaged", and on the third week he was saying "If we end up getting married". Moreover, he told his friends and parents about me as well. Taking into account that I am international and moved to US 2 years ago only, he told me he wants to visit the country I am from next summer. All of this was happening in three weeks only!!!
As it was going super fast I kind of got scared I guess and texted him we are not going to work out. He took it respectfully and normal and even did not ask why.
The issue is we haven't been talking for 3 days and even though I was the one who ended up things, I miss him.. All this rushing stuff during those 3 weeks still scares me, but I miss him as a friend I guess...In 5 days it is his birthday, and I dunno whether I should text him and congratulate or not. I am scared to text him too, cos I am not quite sure of his reaction.
Do you think I should text him congratulate and say I miss him, or it is just too selfish of me...?
In such a short amount of time, you really don't know if he was actually sincere. What you described sounds like his "game" for getting sex. I personally would not waste my time with someone who "moves" that fast.
In such a short amount of time, you really don't know if he was actually sincere. What you described sounds like his "game" for getting sex. I personally would not waste my time with someone who "moves" that fast.
I kind of got that impression too. I need to admit it is kind of weird that he was rushing cos he was claiming he doesnt want to take it fast.
Whoa! Tell homeboy to slow down. Glad you caught that red flag before ending up in possible trouble. Unfortunately, some people don't see or chose to ignore red flags.
OP, this is an example of the "too much too soon" rule. When someone moves that fast, it usually isn't genuine, and there's usually an agenda behind it: sex, a residency permit/visa in the case of a foreigner, money maybe. You get the idea. You can find someone else, I'm sure.
OP, this is an example of the "too much too soon" rule. When someone moves that fast, it usually isn't genuine, and there's usually an agenda behind it: sex, a residency permit/visa in the case of a foreigner, money maybe. You get the idea. You can find someone else, I'm sure.
Yeah, I see what you mean. And the he was telling me like "my best friend wants to meet u!" And when I say "why? We have been on one date only so far!" His respond is "I am gonna quote my friend "according to them I am very generous and kind hearted person." That is why they are so caring."
I should stop being so naive i guess. I trust words too much
You'll read on here couples that knew that soon and it worked out .
In your case, if all else seems OK, can you not just tell him you want to take things slower rather than give up completely?
Only you know if you also have other reasons.
I have been dating a guy for 3 weeks. At first everything was perfect, he was super nice, super social, caring and etc.
After the first date he told me "If we end up being in a relationship", then he said "If we end up getting engaged", and on the third week he was saying "If we end up getting married". Moreover, he told his friends and parents about me as well. Taking into account that I am international and moved to US 2 years ago only, he told me he wants to visit the country I am from next summer. All of this was happening in three weeks only!!!
As it was going super fast I kind of got scared I guess and texted him we are not going to work out. He took it respectfully and normal and even did not ask why.
The issue is we haven't been talking for 3 days and even though I was the one who ended up things, I miss him.. All this rushing stuff during those 3 weeks still scares me, but I miss him as a friend I guess...In 5 days it is his birthday, and I dunno whether I should text him and congratulate or not. I am scared to text him too, cos I am not quite sure of his reaction.
Do you think I should text him congratulate and say I miss him, or it is just too selfish of me...?
You have already texted him and told him it won't work out. Best to listen to those red flags..and run.
I wish I had.
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Tell homeboy to slow down. Glad you caught that red flag before ending up in possible trouble. Unfortunately, some people don't see or chose to ignore red flags.
