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Honestly, if the idea were to make some woman jealous...if I were sitting next to some guy and he started texting his girlfriend, I'd for sure not be interrupting to try to get him to ask ME out. Because he already has a girlfriend. Right? What kind of a borderline personality disorder mess would I have to be to not be interested in a guy unless I thought he was taken and therefore I should go try to take him away from the person he loves, or whatever? LOL, getting with someone whom I think has a girlfriend would have been the LAST thing on my mind back when I was dating. You find out someone is taken, you move on...correct?
Am I just looking at this the wrong way?
If it's social proof...are you going to keep this a secret forever if you DO get the girl? What if she asks about that last girlfriend? Are you going to lie? Or are you going to come clean and watch her go running? I'm really not getting this. What if she catches you in the lie? Then you're a liar and a phony. What if she doesn't catch you in the lie? Then you're still a liar and a phony. This is supposed to cause an increase in your self-confidence? Knowing that you couldn't "get" a girl until you paid one girl to lie on your behalf, then turned around and tricked another girl based on that?
The benefit CAN'T be feeling wanted, as how can you feel wanted by a stranger who doesn't even like you, much less love you and who won't say nice things to you unless you hand her money?
I am kind of at a loss with this particular idea, I admit. There is just...not one single benefit. I mean there isn't one. Period. At least with other forms of self-pretending...like porn or hookers...you're getting something out of it, ultimately. It may be physical and quick but it's something. What are you getting out of paying a stranger to call you bae?
"Hey Joe, what are you doin'?"
"Uh, texting my hot girlfriend."
"Really? Do you have a picture of her?"
"Well, uh, no. Not really. But she's really hot. Trust me."
"Okay then. What's her name?"
"It's, it's, Marlene213, I mean, Siri. Why do you ask?"
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Honestly, if the idea were to make some woman jealous...if I were sitting next to some guy and he started texting his girlfriend, I'd for sure not be interrupting to try to get him to ask ME out. Because he already has a girlfriend. Right? What kind of a borderline personality disorder mess would I have to be to not be interested in a guy unless I thought he was taken and therefore I should go try to take him away from the person he loves, or whatever? LOL, getting with someone whom I think has a girlfriend would have been the LAST thing on my mind back when I was dating. You find out someone is taken, you move on...correct?
Am I just looking at this the wrong way?
If it's social proof...are you going to keep this a secret forever if you DO get the girl? What if she asks about that last girlfriend? Are you going to lie? Or are you going to come clean and watch her go running? I'm really not getting this. What if she catches you in the lie? Then you're a liar and a phony. What if she doesn't catch you in the lie? Then you're still a liar and a phony. This is supposed to cause an increase in your self-confidence? Knowing that you couldn't "get" a girl until you paid one girl to lie on your behalf, then turned around and tricked another girl based on that?
The benefit CAN'T be feeling wanted, as how can you feel wanted by a stranger who doesn't even like you, much less love you and who won't say nice things to you unless you hand her money?
I am kind of at a loss with this particular idea, I admit. There is just...not one single benefit. I mean there isn't one. Period. At least with other forms of self-pretending...like porn or hookers...you're getting something out of it, ultimately. It may be physical and quick but it's something. What are you getting out of paying a stranger to call you bae?
I think you don't understand it because you've had a romantic relationship. For someone like me who has never had a romantic relationship, even a fantasy of one is a dream. I can think of worse things to spend $25 on like liquor or cigarettes.
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Again, I don't see this as different than mostly text long distance relationships. The girl is not close enough to you for physical intimacy and you have to pay to travel to get to her the same way you have to pay to keep the messages coming.
Again, I don't see this as different than mostly text long distance relationships. The girl is not close enough to you for physical intimacy and you have to pay to travel to get to her the same way you have to pay to keep the messages coming.
I wouldn't suggest that either instance is necessarily healthy. In both cases, it removes the impetus to go out into the real world and learn what it takes to meet people. Texting someone doesn't provide the same feedback because the anticipation of actually meeting and interacting with them is removed. The interactions are not genuine.
Sure, meeting people can be intimidating. But the only way you learn how to overcome that feeling is by putting yourself out there, taking a chance and learning from it.
There are no shortcuts.
And there certainly aren't any legitimate substitutions.
I think you don't understand it because you've had a romantic relationship. For someone like me who has never had a romantic relationship, even a fantasy of one is a dream. I can think of worse things to spend $25 on like liquor or cigarettes.
I've never had a romantic relationship either, but this doesn't appeal to me one bit.
Obviously, to each his own, though. Others might be intrigued and want to use this service.
I don't find it much different than dry cleaning, maids, or a car wash. If you aren't capable of doing it yourself, or want it done by someone who knows what they are doing, what's the issue exactly?
It's more analogous to that than it is to posting on a forum.
But it is very much like a previous poster pointed out about strippers. It's apparently an easy sell for some people to tell themselves strippers are really interested in/impressed by/attracted to them. But the reality is, they're getting paid to feign interest (if they even do that). There no genuine interest there, apart from getting paid. And that is what it is, It's... whatever. But one would think that fake interest wouldn't really be that appealing. Which is what hiring somebody to text you and pretend they're interested in you would be.
So, this explains why the guy I dumped a few months ago was getting so many text messages from different people? Along with him telling me how many dates he had to cancel because, you know, so many women wanted him? News alert: Pretending that you are highly wanted or playing games at any age (especially age 40 and over!) does not work.
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News alert: Pretending that you are highly wanted or playing games at any age (especially age 40 and over!) does not work.
