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I never dated a popcorn guy. Must be someone else. My boyfriend is a contractor. I can't work with him because I don't have the knowledge or skill set to build infrastructure. I'd have to go back to college. Plus, I'd have to quit my job at the non profit I work for (which is actually in my field and area of expertise).
Okay, sorry, I got this confused. There was somebody else on here with the same issue and he was a popcorn popper .
So you say his business is temporary. What does that mean? For how much longer? You say a few months and what happens then? Isn't there even more business in the summer?
Having been in a similar circumstance (lost an awesome GF due to time) awhile back, I have an idea of that type of busy-scheduling anxiety. In the end...my hunch is he will get more comfortable with his time challenges and accept it as the way it is.
The dude is wounded from that part of his divorce....as we know time heals all wounds.
Okay, sorry, I got this confused. There was somebody else on here with the same issue and he was a popcorn popper .
So you say his business is temporary. What does that mean? For how much longer? You say a few months and what happens then? Isn't there even more business in the summer?
No worries. I can't keep who is who straight at all. I'm impressed that people remember the things they do. I probably have a similar user name as well as a similar situation.
My boyfriend is a contractor (owns a contracting company). By nature, all contracts are temporary--they build the product and then they are done. Think of it like builders who contract... they build a house or redo a kitchen and move to the next project/contract.
Depending on what they are, some contracts might last a few years, others a few months. This one is just a short contract, but it's a lot of work that needs to be done in an nearly insanely short amount of time (my boyfriend had to hire a bunch more people just to get this done and it's still a lot of overtime). He's the type that doesn't go home when his employees are still at work--he looks out for others he cares for (part of his appeal actually).
Things will always be this way, OP, no matter what is going on in your lives. It may calm down in between, but there will always be another project, and you won't really be able to complain because, after all, it's his livelihood and what puts food on the table.
Even if you are having a baby or going through issues with your family member, he will always feel that pull toward the business. Just know that. It's a lifestyle that I am very familiar with. It's up to you to decide if you can handle it.
Having been in a similar circumstance (lost an awesome GF due to time) awhile back, I have an idea of that type of busy-scheduling anxiety. In the end...my hunch is he will get more comfortable with his time challenges and accept it as the way it is.
The dude is wounded from that part of his divorce....as we know time heals all wounds.
Thanks! It's a strength of mine. I tend to be very loyal and patient. But to be honest, it can also be a weakness as I also have a tendency to stay with men a lot longer than I should (if the relationship has soured/died). So it's a trait that's awesome if I'm with the right man, but self destructive if I'm with the wrong man. But he's the "right man" so to speak. He's clearly putting in extra effort into the relationship when he can and he's concerned. I just don't want him to worry (concern is good, worry is not).
Just be patient with him and his busy schedule. I think his worry over losing you will lessen with time, as he realizes you aren't going to leave him or throw his workload in his face.
Things will always be this way, OP, no matter what is going on in your lives. It may calm down in between, but there will always be another project, and you won't really be able to complain because, after all, it's his livelihood and what puts food on the table.
Even if you are having a baby or going through issues with your family member, he will always feel that pull toward the business. Just know that. It's a lifestyle that I am very familiar with. It's up to you to decide if you can handle it.
My dad was also an entrepreneur and businessman. It's a lot like that. My dad always deeply loved my mom and us kids, even if work pulled him away a lot. So it's something I'm accustomed to as well, but not from a romantic partner. My dad, unfortunately, died young in his 50s (cancer) and that's part of my concern for my boyfriend too (you have to enjoy life too and have a balance because some day it will all be over).
I hope that makes sense. His working a lot doesn't bother me except for the toll it may take on him.
My dad was also an entrepreneur and businessman. It's a lot like that. My dad always deeply loved my mom and us kids, even if work pulled him away a lot. So it's something I'm accustomed to as well, but not from a romantic partner. My dad, unfortunately, died young in his 50s (cancer) and that's part of my concern for my boyfriend too (you have to enjoy life too and have a balance because some day it will all be over).
I hope that makes sense. His working a lot doesn't bother me except for the toll it may take on him.
The fact that it feels familiar is probably what has allowed you to tolerate it to this point.
Good luck to you. Hopefully he can get a handle on how to manage his own stress. It doesn't really sound like you are adding to it.
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