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If she was hiding her exploits, the OP would have never known.
My husband's only concern about a situation like this would only be for my safety. If we were in a group and didn't drive, he'd only give me hell if I had a hangover afterwards.
So much hate for the OP. The girl is not "single", there is some respect needed in a relationship. Letting a partner know you are going out partying is the least she could do. Sounds like she's hinding something.
Why is it for some people (mostly guys, for some reason) "respect" means they have to know exactly where you are, who you are with, and what you are doing at all times?
That's pure psycho.
At that point I felt a bit upset. 'It's our anniversary night and you are partying by yourself in South Beach. To be honest I would have liked for you to tell me this was your plan earlier in the day' I said.
Another thing is, when you're in a serious relationship you dont go to an impromptu party at midnight without consulting your partner, and if your partner happens to be in bed -mind you it's also our anniversary, I'd think the decent and considerate thing to do is to politely decline the invite and call it a night. That's what I would have done.
I think she was disrespectful and inconsiderate and I expect an apology and I'm not going to initiate contact until I get one, but of course here I am wondering if I'm overreacting? was it so bad what she did? I mean for all I know there was no Andrea, maybe it was just her and the lawyer, who knows? but I dont even wanna go there...
Opinions?
My opinion? You're entitled to your feelings, but you're being ridiculous.
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she aint your wife, you guys are dating, you accept that she travels to work , but need to be on top of her where abouts after hours. It is ok to be concerned, it is ok to be insecure about it, she will probably do the same if the shoe were in the other foot?
If you guys dont live together, are not engaged, you need to let it go and have some trust. you cant put a gps on her, and she could be sitting in another mans lap while she is speaking to you, even during daylight hours.
Even if they were married, his requirements are ridiculous.
My husband and I have been together for more than 18 years, over those years, we've frequently been separated by travel, whether it's for business or pleasure. We check in with each other at least once a day, oftentimes more depending on the nature of the trip, etc. If he decides to go out after we've spoken for the last time that day, I don't expect him to let me know (and vice versa). When we check in the next morning, we oftentimes will say "So what did you end up doing last night?"
I'm not saying the way we do it is right for every couple, but it's indicative of a relationship that is not controlling, healthy, and has trust.
So much hate for the OP. The girl is not "single", there is some respect needed in a relationship. Letting a partner know you are going out partying is the least she could do. Sounds like she's hinding something.
Yes she is single as in unmarried, unengaged, both equal single. She has a *boyfriend* according to the OP, not a husband, not a fiance which also equals single.
Yes she is single as in unmarried, unengaged, both equal single. She has a *boyfriend* according to the OP, not a husband, not a fiance which also equals single.
Exactly! He has no set "claim" on her and as a 30-something, free and single woman she is under no obligation to report-in every time she's gone and no requirement to seek permission to live her life and maintain her career as she sees fit. I know my wife wouldn't put up with it and didn't when both of us periodically travelled for work, nor would or did I. We'd speak once, briefly, in the evening and that was sufficient.
I'm often amazed at what some people expect and worse, demand. If I was on the receiving end I'd be gone.
Yes she is single as in unmarried, unengaged, both equal single. She has a *boyfriend* according to the OP, not a husband, not a fiance which also equals single.
This is a two year relationship. It's sad people think this way these days. No wonder there are so many unwanted pregnancies, STDs, and Jerry Springer episodes.
Yes she is single as in unmarried, unengaged, both equal single. She has a *boyfriend* according to the OP, not a husband, not a fiance which also equals single.
CD logic at its finest.
Perhaps I should broach this subject to my partner of two years. We're not married, or engaged- heck, that means I'm single, and can do whatever the heck I want!
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So much hate for the OP. The girl is not "single", there is some respect needed in a relationship. Letting a partner know you are going out partying is the least she could do. Sounds like she's hinding something.
The OP going out with friends for a work event is not any of the OPs business at all. She is an adult, kids ask for permission. The woman did nothing wrong, the OP is confusing a boyfriend for a parent.
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Perhaps I should broach this subject to my partner of two years. We're not married, or engaged- heck, that means I'm single, and can do whatever the heck I want!
You can, actually.
You may decide not to, which is also your choice.
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