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Yes, me man, me strong. I can't understand an obvious request to delay a first meeting because me clueless. Me man, me strong. Must put person in their place. Me man.
lol I guess some of us have different opinions on what "obvious" means !!!
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lol I guess some of us have different opinions on what "obvious" means !!!
Saying "I'm too tired to drive" is yelling "I don't want to go out tonight". It's not the least bit subtle.
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Maybe you didn't read all of post 1, or you have forgotten that she AGREED to let him drive her at first by asking what time should she be ready, so where does that fit into your scenario?
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Read what she actually said, please. She was pressured by him after saying she didn't want to go out, relented to the pressure, and then asked to reschedule even more bluntly.
Met a woman at a bar about one week ago.
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After a series of back and forth texts she pulls out of the date saying, "The thing is I'm tired and don't want to drive to be quite honest with you."
See, here is where you could have just said, "Okay maybe another time," instead of pushing the issue.
I think an unnecessary, immature lecture was a small price to pay for knowing for sure she will never waste her time with
you. Good choice on her part.
OP, I do hope you get to experience actual real life issues one day and you also get to experience an unnecessay, immature lecture for a very long time.
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Yes, me man, me strong. I can't understand an obvious request to delay a first meeting because me clueless. Me man, me strong. Must put person in their place. Me man.
Or maybe someone can't understand a flake when they experience one. Agreeing to a 9:30 date on a weekday was a stupid idea in the first place. Canceling it with a hour or two to spare is even worse.
I guess it is okay in your book then that she just cant come out and say no and instead just lied previously with him? lol She should have just said no instead of saying she was too tired to drive.
I cant believe anyone would be so clueless as to think that's okay!
She's not borrowing money from the bank and coming up short with a payment. She made plans to go out and, push came to shove, she simply wasn't feeling up to it. Are you telling me that you've never had second thoughts about your plans for an evening after a long, hard day at work?
The truth of the matter here is that she was trying to be nice. And had the OP been gracious about matters and let her off the hook, he might actually be planning another date with her. And this one might have gone well. If she was noncommittal or canceled again, lose her number.
I swear some of you guys kill me with all your rules and hair-trigger responses. Dating is give-and-take, just like any relationship. Yet you'll turn around and wonder why you can't find someone.
Having to reschedule a date because of an actual scheduling conflict isn't necessarily rude, depending on context and other details.
Bailing on something the night of because you "just aren't feeling it" IS rude.
I would assume she was ambivalent from the get-go, but didn't have the gumption (or whatever) to turn you down flat out from the start, and the "Well, I'm kinda tired and just don't feel like going out tonight after all" was the last ditch effort to get out of something she should have declined in the first place if she wasn't feeling it.
If you hadn't called to confirm/give directions, odds are she'd have been a no-show.
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Or maybe someone can't understand a flake when they experience one. Agreeing to a 9:30 date on a weekday was a stupid idea in the first place. Canceling it with a hour or two to spare is even worse.
A flake is someone that repeats cancellations. Not someone that says one time they are too tired to go out, can we reschedule?
Things come up with work, with kids, with life every once in awhile, on my end and on theirs. That's expected.
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