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Yeah the stuff is just a physical manifestation of his lingering ties to his ex.
Maybe he is just lazy. Maybe he just doesn't want to see the ex. There are several possible reasons.
It is probably the wrong thing to do but I would probably pack all her stuff and then tell him, let's go there and drop it off and get it over with. Then there would be a massive fight.
That's why I am single
Maybe he is just lazy. Maybe he just doesn't want to see the ex. There are several possible reasons.
It is probably the wrong thing to do but I would probably pack all her stuff and then tell him, let's go there and drop it off and get it over with. Then there would be a massive fight.
That's why I am single
Yeah the stuff is just a physical manifestation of his lingering ties to his ex.
I'm not certain this is the case.
This is the other possible scenario: Her stuff could be packed away in boxes, and he doesn't even think about the stuff until the Ex texts him, and his response could be "Well, come and get it." and when she doesn't come to get it, he just forgets about it again.
Generally, I don't think men place as much sentimental value on things as women do.
What I can say for certain, is that if I were given an ultimatum from someone I've been dating for a mere three months, I would seriously be reconsidering the relationship.
This is the other possible scenario: Her stuff could be packed away in boxes, and he doesn't even think about the stuff until the Ex texts him, and his response could be "Well, come and get it." and when she doesn't come to get it, he just forgets about it again.
Generally, I don't think men place as much sentimental value on things as women do.
What I can say for certain, is that if I were given an ultimatum from someone I've been dating for a mere three months, I would seriously be reconsidering the relationship.
The "stuff" is simply a reminder to her of them together. Wouldn't be a big deal, IF he was over and done with her. They are just a symbol of his affection towards her that she feels in her gut that is still going on.
It's not a secure relationship and he's not trying to secure it with her. He's still holding on to the ex.
He has told me, he feels bad getting rid of the stuff, that its valuable to her. If something is that valuable she would have already taken it all...He said he would get rid of it by my deadline, I hope so.
Yeah this is a warning sign right here. Me, I'd be chucking it out on recycling day or just claiming it as 'mine' and she can pound sand. Why does he care that how bad she feels about getting rid of it?
No, she said it is more stuff. And no, he doesn't have to get rid of it - but HE said he wants to give it back and the ex keeps texting every now and then to get her stuff back. So they are BOTH still stalling while the new gf wonders why they don't tie ends.
OP would probably not care if he would say the ex left all that stuff and it is now his.
Thank you, this is exactly what I mean. If she left her stuff there and he was using it, I wouldn't give a crap (keeping things to use that they may have bought together hold no significance). The fact that he still is gonna give that stuff back is what bugs me. If I had a toxic partner and they wouldn't pick up their stuff, I would chuck it in the trash or donate it.
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