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Originally Posted by SoftSleepyKitten
Do you think in the long term it can work?
This isn't my relationship but someone who is important to me.
Every person is different but with this particular person:
They are smart (sorry to stereotype) and their partner can bask in that brightness however many things capture their interest and consume them for long periods at a time to the detriment and neglect of all other things like their partner. Life has to be predictable and they need time alone. Most social occasions are a no-no. When you add to that, that they desire time alone I think this becomes difficult for the partner. And knowing how they truly feel is tough. They can be so emotional at times but it comes more from imitation (i.e. what is seen on TV, movies) if you see what I mean.
Anyway if you are on the spectrum or have a partner who is, are romantic relationships difficult for you?
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I just quit a 6 month relationship with a man that was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome at sometime in his adult life.
These were the reasons:
1. Except for the first two-three months he was insistent that he was to initiate all kissing, hugging, sex, etc. I found myself asking for permission to kiss him and these were grandma like kisses....nothing sensual about them
2. I was love bombed for the first two months. I was perfect in his eyes. I can only think that when I showed signs of falling for him he felt he did not have to do that anymore and all tactile responses were verboten
3. I was not allowed to give him a chaste kiss in public. He had a melt down when I chastely kissed his shoulder in a darkened theatre
4. I was not allowed to talk AT ALL during movies, TV, sports, talk shows etc. Not allowed to make any comment
5. He would get onto a subject and just keep going with no end in sight. I had to just sit and listen.
6. He had an amazing book, CD, glass sculpture collection. Clothes were never thrown away.
7. He had a real problem with authority figures i.e. police, red lights, stop signs etc.
8. I cooked a lot for him and his favorite was pork of any kind. I think he would have eaten pork all the time if I had not cooked other dishes
9. He had to be alone ALOT
10. He told me I texted him too much, and that he had to get used to so much communication. He said he could go days without anyone contacting him.
11. He told me that he needed to have the rugs at his house cleaned because of his dog's accidents, however, he would not because he did not want the furniture moved
12. He was angry with someone or something always. Never was there a time that all was right with the world
13. He had no friends
14. He suffered from depression and drug addiction
15. He was a multi millionaire retired doctor
16. He could be fun and playful at times if his strict routines were not messed with in anyway
17. All of this came in bits and pieces. He told me he had a little problem with communication at first
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