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IDK...sounds like he started treating her like crap. Does someone really NEED to be told when one is no longer interested in them? Can't they have a little self respect, maybe get their feelings hurt, and walk away?
If I quit returning someone's calls, didn't act too excited about them and ignored them, it certainly wouldn't make them more attractive to me if they said: "That's ok, will you be my valentine?"
Sure it's great to be Noble and kind and immediately tell someone you aren't "feeling it", but being a doormat and just taking substandard treatment so one can have a date for propaganda day, doesn't make them a winner, either.
Well, it sounds like you have all of this well in hand, stand behind what you did, and have zero problems or guilt about any of it, so there's really no reason to ask hundreds of strangers on the internet about it. Just keep with the same M.O. going into the future and you should be fine.
IDK...sounds like he started treating her like crap. Does someone really NEED to be told when one is no longer interested in them? Can't they have a little self respect, maybe get their feelings hurt, and walk away?
If I quit returning someone's calls, didn't act too excited about them and ignored them, it certainly wouldn't make them more attractive to me if they said: "That's ok, will you be my valentine?"
Sure it's great to be Noble and kind and immediately tell someone you aren't "feeling it", but being a doormat and just taking substandard treatment so one can have a date for propaganda day, doesn't make them a winner, either.
Indeed.
My low interest was obvious, yet she continued to delude herself. But I'm a jerk because for some reason, I owe her a relationship simply because she wants one lol.
My low interest was obvious, yet she continued to delude herself. But I'm a jerk because for some reason, I owe her a relationship simply because she wants one lol.
Nah.
The only thing you owed her was honesty. You never offered that. So yeah, you're the jerk.
IDK...sounds like he started treating her like crap. Does someone really NEED to be told when one is no longer interested in them? Can't they have a little self respect, maybe get their feelings hurt, and walk away?
If I quit returning someone's calls, didn't act too excited about them and ignored them, it certainly wouldn't make them more attractive to me if they said: "That's ok, will you be my valentine?"
Sure it's great to be Noble and kind and immediately tell someone you aren't "feeling it", but being a doormat and just taking substandard treatment so one can have a date for propaganda day, doesn't make them a winner, either.
I thought she didn't contact him again after he didn't return her call, then he contacted her with go find someone else even though she stopped contacting him...then she got snippy...do I have this poster confused with someone else? ETA: oh yeah...I think I do...but I mean this guy was going out with the girl, had sex a bunch of times...I don't think it is weird for her to have thought they might do Valentine's Day. Maybe I am just a softie but I generally think if a guy is boning me, we might exchange chocolates at some point. Or a card?
My low interest was obvious, yet she continued to delude herself. But I'm a jerk because for some reason, I owe her a relationship simply because she wants one lol.
Gimme a break right?
You said you had sex with her several times, how is that obviously low interest???
Did you act very bored while having sex with her? Did you yawn a couple times?
It seems strange to gloat if you really don't care. I think you are stoked. I have a feeling the shoe has generally been on the other foot for you. So...then...good? Congrats, I guess? Well, she has been set free to find someone awesome. Everybody wins, problem solved. Another happy ending on CD! You don't really need us any more.
Sometimes... I just hate people. In general... no one specific, here really. Just in general. Yeah. I know. I am one, too. But, people, just bleh, sometimes, you know?
I was never dishonest. If she doesn't ask the right questions, that's on her.
You act like I gave her an STD or something. Kill the drama.
Yikes. So you’re only honest when people ask the “right” questions? A woman you’re banging has to ask if you like her “like that” or else you’re off the hook and can continue banging her? Does this policy about honesty apply to other areas of your life as well?!?
And because she stayed during crappy treatment, that entitles you to further treat her poorly?
Wow.
It isn’t just how you treated this woman that is the problem. So you lost interest. It happens. But your attitude toward the whole thing...that is..wow. It really appears here that tou don’t care at all that you hurt another human. Entitlement much?
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Just keep with the same M.O. going into the future and you should be fine.
Well, she has been set free to find someone awesome. 
You know...
