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Tradition has long dictated that a man must ask a woman's father for her hand in marriage before making his proposal.
But to many, the practice now seems rather outdated.
Mumsnet users fiercely debated the topic in a recent thread, with some outraged brides deeming the idea 'sexist and outdated', while others described it as a 'sweet tradition'.
One woman expressed her surprise the tradition was still ongoing, slamming the idea that her father had a say in her love life and even adding that she would 'dump' anyone who requested his permission for her hand in marriage.
Thoughts? I didn't. Though my wife is older so perhaps it would have been a little different were she younger. I hardly view it as necessary though.
Unless it mattered to my girlfriend and she really wanted me to ask her father, then I doubt I would. To me, asking for permission to propose just feels weird, and almost like my girlfriend is some sort of possession.
That being said, I would maybe tell "both" of her parents that I plan to propose to her, but not because I'd be asking for any sort of permission.
The consensus from previous threads on this topic was that asking for the parents' blessing is fine, but the only person who can/should give permission is the would-be bride.
I think it's a very generous and loving gesture to her parents in this special rite of their daughter's life. Now of course the answer must be known ahead of time to pull it off....
and btw, I am not by any means a conservative woman...
The consensus from previous threads on this topic was that asking for the parents' blessing is fine, but the only person who can/should give permission is the would-be bride.
That makes sense to me, and probably the route I'd go if I ever did propose.
I think that you would know if that was something important to your GF or not, long before popping the question.
I find the concept outdated myself.
Consequently you'd also know if her parents approve of the relationship or not, and would welcome you as part of the family.
It's not just outdated, it's unnecessary.
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