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Fear of rejection. And I know the odds are already against me, so I don’t really see a point. I know I’m not the best looking guy out there, so I know I will likely get rejected more times than not. I always see pretty girls when I’m out and about, but I don’t feel any motivation to approach them. They probably either have a boyfriend already or don’t want to be bothered.
Last edited by Randomguy18; 07-16-2018 at 12:00 PM..
By "going for what you want" I mean going after that girl that you saw at the gym or at the grocery store and thought she was attractive.
or for women to go and spark up a conversation with that cute guy on aisle 4 that you ran into.
What stops you?
For me, it's that "SHE LOOKS BUSY. I'M PROBABLY GOING TO BOTHER HER"
I just did a bit of mathing (yay spreadsheets) and since I turned 18, I have been available to date, just 3% of my adult life. So I'd say odds are the reason I didn't approach some guy in the store, is because I wasn't in the market for that product at that time.
I also tend to imagine even striking up conversation with some interesting looking man in a store, that his SO could be just a couple aisles down and appear at any moment. I don't assume that anyone else is available either.
But in more social places, mostly what I want is just a conversation, and that's easy to go after. Nothing holds me back, I just go start talking and see what happens. If I get a "Leave me alone" vibe, I shut up and drift off. I guess that could work if I were trying to find a date.
I can't remember a time when I was deterred from approaching somebody I WANTED to approach.
For me, it was more an issue of finding people I actually wanted to approach to begin with. But I never really experienced any times I really wanted to approach somebody and just didn't.
I'm the one who did the approaching with my husband.
Nothing stops me from being friendly to strangers, unless I'm in a bad mood.
Is that what you mean?
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