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For discussion purposes, is it wrong for women to expect men to give them flowers, take them out on special occasions (birthday, V day, etc), buy them presents? And then get their feelings hurt if it doesn't happen?
Oh well, I'll play. I'm a woman and I love to *give* presents. I love to pick up little treats for my husband and kids when I'm out. As for holidays, we give and get about equally. Last VD I sent a bonsai to my husband's office and got him good chocolates. He got me pretty flowers in a color he knew I'd love, and chocolates.
I expect love and attention on special days but not a specific type of gift. I guess my love language is being acknowledged.
With that said I'll step back and watch the hysteria about how every single woman demands "perfume," chocolates, jewelry and lobster because we're entitled and hypocritical and so on. In T minus three...two...
For discussion purposes, is it wrong for women to expect men to give them flowers, take them out on special occasions (birthday, V day, etc), buy them presents? And then get their feelings hurt if it doesn't happen?
In a marriage or long term relationship, yes, the man is supposed to remember birthdays, give Christmas (or whatever winter holiday) presents, give some sort of notice to valentine's day and anniversery.
If you dont, gentlemen, your relationship is going to become rocky from neglect.
Oh well, I'll play. I'm a woman and I love to *give* presents. I love to pick up little treats for my husband and kids when I'm out. As for holidays, we give and get about equally. Last VD I sent a bonsai to my husband's office and got him good chocolates. He got me pretty flowers in a color he knew I'd love, and chocolates.
I expect love and attention on special days but not a specific type of gift. I guess my love language is being acknowledged.
With that said I'll step back and watch the hysteria about how every single woman demands "perfume," chocolates, jewelry and lobster because we're entitled and hypocritical and so on. In T minus three...two...
This! I like to surprise anyone--good friends, family members I'm close to, with little items I know they'd love, if I see something when I'm out and about. So yeah, it would be great to be with someone who was into that too, or could reciprocate in some way. I think that's what helps a bond grow. Do I expect jewelry, and expensive stuff? No. But for special occasions, it would be nice to surprise each other with something more special than the little tokens.
For discussion purposes, is it wrong for women to expect men to give them flowers, take them out on special occasions (birthday, V day, etc), buy them presents? And then get their feelings hurt if it doesn't happen?
IMO, if you're in a committed relationship, then giving and receiving presents for special occasions should be the norm and not something you have to ponder. It shows you remembered them and care about making an effort. The exception to this would be if your SO asked you NOT to get them anything, but otherwise, yes, many people do appreciate the gesture.
It doesn't have to be an expensive gift. A little card that says "Happy Birthday" or "I Love You" can mean the world to someone, and it shows that they were worth the time and effort to do so.
Sometimes, it's the little things that matter the most in a relationship.
It’s not “wrong” in the context of it being a tradition they know and cherish and it being known to all who they surround themselves with.
To those type of people it is the norm and many concessions and considerations they give themselves in a relationship are built around those type of interactions.
Many people are this way due to the traditions they have grown up with and how those traditions play in to their known values. It’s impossible to take the emotion out of these things when they do not feel reciprocal. Even if they understand another may not be the same as they are and hold those same traditions to heart, the personal ties are still present to those values they hold.
Last edited by rego00123; 08-24-2018 at 11:21 PM..
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