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I am 32 year old who made some dumb mistakes in his youth that led to two fantastic boys who have recently left the nest to travel the world for 1 year before they start engineering school abroad.
So i am now dating and i am getting a lot of hits(tinder bumble etc) but the dates never lead to second dates because i am honest and let a lady know that i don't want anymore kids. I spent 19 years taking care of and raising two boys and i am sort of over that at this point, just over a year ago i got a vasectomy .
I don't want to end up alone for the rest of my life but i haven't dated in a nearly a decade so i could use some advice.
How would you best bring up the point of not wanting kids
Last edited by freetoroam; 02-02-2019 at 02:02 PM..
OP, there are many, many women, regardless of age, of childbearing years who have no desire to have children--many. So, relax and please do not worry re that issue.
Be honest; always be honest. So, you made mistakes when you were young. Well, so did and do the rest of us. Welcome to the club that everyone belongs to.
Please also do not feel as though you have to "apologize" to a woman, or anyone, for having children at a young age. I am sure there is a story behind it that you can share with the right lady friend; it's no one else's business.
People cannot can not make you feel shame about something you yourself do not feel shame about. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Carry on!
I’m a female and I don’t want kids. You’ll find women who are relieved and happy you don’t want more either.
The *normal" people in my age group don't have college aged kids. So dating within my age group narrows down odds finding someone who doesn't want kids. .
I am 32 year old who made some dumb mistakes in his youth that led to two fantastic boys who have recently left the nest to travel the world for 1 year before they start engineering school abroad.
So i am now dating and i am getting a lot of hits(tinder bumble etc) but the dates never lead to second dates because i am honest and let a lady know that i don't want anymore kids. I spent 19 years taking care of and raising two boys and i am sort of over that at this point, just over a year ago i got a vasectomy .
I don't want to end up alone for the rest of my life but i haven't dated in a nearly a decade so i could use some advice.
How would you best bring up the point of not wanting kids
I would not get into deep discussions about the future on a first date. Other than that if asked simply say I raised two children and I was really young. I’m not looking to doing it again when I’m older.
So dating within my age group narrows down odds finding someone who doesn't want kids.
Are you sure that's the reason there are no second dates?
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