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Sorry, what you're saying still does not make sense. A bisexual person is both gay and heterosexual - a bisexual likes both gay sex and heterosexual sex. You seem to think there is not a gay component to being bisexual.
And saying a person is gay is NOT "taking a shot at one's sexuality" as you state it. You're assuming that being gay or liking gay sex is a 'shot' and an insult and is a demeaning category and a demeaning thing for a person to call another person. There is nothing wrong with being gay and in having gay male to male sex. It is not an insult to be gay or derogatory to be thought of as gay. And a male bisexual has gay sex male to male, and also has heterosexual sex with females.
I don’t think I’m making myself clear here.
The post I was replying to was someone claiming they were skeptical that the OP was bi and was just gay. They said they were “not buying the bi thing” and that he doesn’t want to “Admit that you’re really gay”. Go back and read the post I was replying to. The poster was implying that the OP was really gay and was not bi and didn’t like women. And calling himself bi was an act to cover up to his family.
I certainly didn't advise OP to simply leave. I think the woman needs his help. My whole thinking is generally, "What is the next right thing?"
I believe in this case, OP has wronged this woman not only with the cheating but (in my opinion) it is also kind of a betrayal to come somewhere like this and talk this kind of stuff behind someone's back. There were some pretty salacious details. I would not want my partner going online and saying such things about me.
So balancing out that karma in my opinion means coming clean about the cheating, and offering to remain as her caregiver for as long as she needs but with an open relationship agreement where they may both seek other partners. Should she find someone else to be with her and care for her, then he will go at that time. But in the meantime, they aren't in a sexual/romantic relationship any longer. The way I'd have put it would just be that I was not feeling the kind of things I needed to, to continue in the relationship, but I certainly do not want to leave someone with these health problems in a lurch. So looking for some kind of a compromise and a solution that takes all of this into consideration somehow.
And for real, who cares what kind of a person the OP cheated with? I don't. It's pretty well beside the point, honestly.
My guess is you won't, and you will continue to think you're the victim in this, and see your side chick with a D? and post on here.
Ok I am not trying to be funny here, only a thought since you say you're bi (I don't know if you pitch or catch, that is your business) but maybe your GF can wear the tool and peg you.
Anyhow, this whole situation sounds as messed up as a soup sandwich and I now feel like I need some germX for my hands.
You need to break up with this person.You're not happy and you can't make someone clean up themselves to suit you sexually.
You have told the person and they don't want to do that.You're not happy and it's not fair for her to be with someone who feels this way about them.Break up.
And for real, who cares what kind of a person the OP cheated with? I don't. It's pretty well beside the point, honestly.
3 situations:
1. A guy comes on here and talks about cheating on his girlfriend with a woman he met at a bar.
2. A guy comes on here and talks about cheating on his disabled girlfriend with a woman he met at a bar.
3. A guy comes on here and talks about cheating on his disabled girlfriend with a trans person he met at a bar.
I find the 2nd situation worse than the 1st. And I find the 3rd situation worse than the 2nd.
Right or wrong, that's how I see things.
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