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I'd rather be alone, or keep it a casual fling with no life entanglement. I don't need a standard-issue escalating to marriage sort of relationship thing to be happy.
But I agree with the poster who said, "I make my own money." My threshold is not set where a partner has to provide security, but they do need to not threaten whatever security I can provide myself, by being irresponsible. If I felt that someone were taking advantage of me financially, I would also question their ability to love me in a way I could trust. As a woman, I won't do that to a man either.
Someone who you are in love with that you click with on all levels and have that passion and fire but cannot provide you with a good financial life
OR
Someone who can provide you with a good financial life but you are not in love with or attracted to but you do get along
Which is more important in life----Love or security???
Security, have to admit.
If they cannot afford their bills, or have terrible credit or whatever it may be, that will impact you. I once dated a guy before meeting my husband who had a 600 credit score. He could not get a car or rent any apartment. He lived with his parents. He asked me to be a CO-SIGNER for the car he wanted to get … I DECLINED and ended it shortly thereafter. (He was 32)
People with poor finances become burdens.
Also, sometimes over time, love can grow out of a friendship.
Why are you giving your personal finances numbers on the internet...that's not necessary to tell people.
You have to go with the person you love....but it kind of seems like you don't love either 1 if you are comparing them like this........
Money is being brought up on who is possibly supporting who or asking to borrow money etc. That is not the issue here. I make/have my own money. They are fine themselves.
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Money is being brought up on who is possibly supporting who or asking to borrow money etc. That is not the issue here. I make/have my own money.
If you have your own money...then why is security a question tho? Then the choice to pick love would be the obvious 1...wouldn't it?
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