I ended a toxic relationship and now I want her back (woman, dance)

[MattKaymen]

I broke up with a woman a couple of months ago. I was unhappy in the relationship and when it ended I was relieved and happy. Unfortunately I now feel like I'm missing her and I really want her back.
The thing is I know if we got back together I would be unhappy again.
Why do I feel like I want her back when I know it would end up with me being unhappy again?

[Katnan]

I think you're missing "a" relationship, not her specifically.

Take what you've learned and move forward with your life in a positive way, not backward into dysfunction again.

[MattKaymen]

Originally Posted by Liberty2011

I think you're missing "a" relationship, not her specifically.

I did think about that and wondered if that might be the case. Perhaps I should hit Tinder :-)

[turf3]

Humans are supposedly able to learn from experience.


Go thou and do likewise.

[SoCal_Native]

Originally Posted by MattKaymen

I broke up with a woman a couple of months ago. I was unhappy in the relationship and when it ended I was relieved and happy. Unfortunately I now feel like I'm missing her and I really want her back.
The thing is I know if we got back together I would be unhappy again.
Why do I feel like I want her back when I know it would end up with me being unhappy again?

Sounds like the guy who quit drinking and wants to fall off the wagon.

[TashaPosh]

Originally Posted by MattKaymen

I broke up with a woman a couple of months ago. I was unhappy in the relationship and when it ended I was relieved and happy. Unfortunately I now feel like I'm missing her and I really want her back.
The thing is I know if we got back together I would be unhappy again.
Why do I feel like I want her back when I know it would end up with me being unhappy again?

Never go back to exes.......trust in yourself that you made the right decision the 1st time...........you're just lonely..........

[Carly1983]

Been there, done that as someone who was once in an on/off toxic relationship. Don't do it. It's a trap. You miss all the things that came with the relationship (when it was going well.) Doesn't mean you miss the person. You'll be better off with someone else.

[hawaiiancoconut]

Do yourself a huge favor and forget about her.

[TJenkins602]

Originally Posted by MattKaymen

I broke up with a woman a couple of months ago. I was unhappy in the relationship and when it ended I was relieved and happy. Unfortunately I now feel like I'm missing her and I really want her back.
The thing is I know if we got back together I would be unhappy again.
Why do I feel like I want her back when I know it would end up with me being unhappy again?

I'll sum it up in one word, familiarity.

[ADogNamedSam]

You just miss you and her doing the dance with no pants.


After a few dances with new partners, your wish to give it another shot with her will fade.