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Most men are visual instead of emotional. Sometimes it seems to be the thrill of the chase that they enjoy. Once they get married it's all old news. Or that is what my husband tells me. He he That doesn't mean he doesn't love you, thats just life. You might try a date night, away from the kids and routine. Maybe stay overnight somewhere. Good luck.
Your right!
Maybe he wants to chase you, so you might try cooking supper in something sexy. Tease him a little. Reverse it on him. See if that will make a diffrence.
How old is your child? You may have to do this, after he goes to bed, or something.
actually there can be a reason to be annoyed by a woman starting something with me at times,thats when I'm not fresh out of the shower.I don't want sex unless I'm clean.
LOL alright I'll tell you a funny story,well actually it was annoying but.
One time a ex girlfriend was servicing me,I was raging and ready to go.Seeing her curvy form laying while she layed against me made me ready for a certain position.
Well when I moved on the bed,I got a very painful cramp in one leg because her arm and body had been pressing down on my leg and I guess it caused the cramp.
The cramp hurt so bad that I lost it completely,and it hurt for a while.
I don't know what else to do but come on here and ask. I've tried to talk to him about it, I've tried to be so so patient with him about everything.
We met online and he seemed very enthusiastic about sex, as all guys do online.
Then after we were dating for a few months, one day I noticed during sex that he was not as ... um rigid as usual.
So I asked him point blank about it a few days later.
At that time I was worried about getting together with someone with issues down there long term.
He said "Oh that's normal. It happens to all guys."
I was like hell no it doesn't! It's never happened to a guy who was with me before. Never ever happened to my ex and he was 3 yrs older than my hubby and we had sex very very often.
I was very confused. But just thought maybe I was being too upfront about the whole thing. So I layed off the poor guy for a while.
Well shortly after that, about a month or so, the sex started to dwindle. Like he hardly ever initiated sex anymore. And I have a very high sex drive. So high that I couldn't wait for him to initiate and I would. It began to be me starting things about 9 times out of 10 or more.
Okay now fast forward a year. We are married, had a baby, I got big with the belly, and now I'm thin again. I am attractive, as I've been told numerous times by others so I don't know why he wouldn't be attracted to me, but maybe that's it. We have a great marriage and relationship and love each other so much.
He is so loving and caring all other times. But when it comes to the sack he never initiates sex, doesn't compliment me enough, and never just gets a hard on when I'm just naked. And in bed he often just lays there letting me do all the work. Most of the time I'm so horny that I don't care, I'll do anything. Sometimes, it takes work to get him hard and keep him there. Most times when I initiate I find that it works best right away in the morning. But that means he is tired and doesn't do anything to please me, barely even opens his eyes. Ugh!
I've talked to him about all this a number of times, but not about the physical problem he may have as I don't want to insult him or embarrass him.
The last time I asked him he said he had stopped initiating because he was worried our relationship might be just based on sex. He never told me this before, and I wonder if this is for real or just another excuse. Then he said but his mojo has been coming back lately and he has been initiating more often and been into it more when I initiate things. Which is sorta true. He started things a couple times the last week or 2.
Another thing that may have something to do with it all too is that he has constantly stared at other girls whenever we went out together. Even after I made it clear how much it hurt my feelings. Now I don't just mean a quick glance here and there. It was like he was constantly scanning the perimeter for girls. And when he found one to look at he'd stare, and sometimes do double and even triple take looks. And I noticed a trend too. Very young girls who were thin. YUCK! After months and months of talking about it, he has finally started not doing this as much, thank god, but how long it will last I don't know.
Does he have a low libido? Sexual problems? Is he just not into me, and I should just get out of this marriage before he cheats on me?
I know that a good relationship is more than just sex, but man, sex is like breathing for me.
REPLY: If 'bad' sex was a deal breaker for you, then how come you married him ? Very curious. thanks.
LOL alright I'll tell you a funny story,well actually it was annoying but.
One time a ex girlfriend was servicing me,I was raging and ready to go.Seeing her curvy form laying while she layed against me made me ready for a certain position.
Well when I moved on the bed,I got a very painful cramp in one leg because her arm and body had been pressing down on my leg and I guess it caused the cramp.
The cramp hurt so bad that I lost it completely,and it hurt for a while.
HAHA!
very funny story
Yeah and about the package grabbing... I have no idea why he didn't like that. Makes no sense at all. But he will tolerate it a lot better now though.
I think his ex was very hands off, and he got used to that, she was his first and they were married for like 8 yrs... maybe? I dunno.
LOL alright I'll tell you a funny story,well actually it was annoying but.
One time a ex girlfriend was servicing me,I was raging and ready to go.Seeing her curvy form laying while she layed against me made me ready for a certain position.
Well when I moved on the bed,I got a very painful cramp in one leg because her arm and body had been pressing down on my leg and I guess it caused the cramp.
The cramp hurt so bad that I lost it completely,and it hurt for a while.
ROTFL
So I take it you were out of service? LOL Sorry I can't stop laughing....
Becoming a little crazy...could he possibly be gay? Trying to chase you, oggling other girls etc.... just sayin'
Oh Man!
I hope not! How the hell do you find that out? I can just see it now.
"Um, sweety. There is something I need to ask you. Do you like d**k?"
LOL!
I really really really don't think he is, but then what the hell do I know.
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LOL Sorry I can't stop laughing....
