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Originally Posted by Frostnip
As a woman, if someone isn't interested in talking to me - even just to say hi - unless it's to get in my pants, that's an automatic no from me. How are you going to claim to like someone then avoid them entirely?
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Normally I'd agree with this assessment, except some of these religious-conservative types think dating is a prelude to marriage only, and won't date unless they're ready to get married. So I suppose it's possible they won't even get to know a woman unless they're ready to date, which they won't do unless they're ready for marriage?
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Originally Posted by RubyandPearl
I see no evidence that son is "obsessed" in any way. He is interested and wants to get to know a woman he met in college but didn't feel ready at the time to take it further.
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Except that this is a woman he's never even spoken to, and not only can he not move on two years later (from a crush on someone who, again, he's had absolutely no relationship with at all outside of simply seeing her in the same place he was a few times), now he's prepared to "wait" for her for years to see if she's interested. That's not... normally how people operate.
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Originally Posted by RubyandPearl
People aren't born knowing each other.
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No, they're not. But he passed on the opportunity to know her, and now that that ship has long sailed, he's hoping he can get it to turn around and return to the dock.
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Originally Posted by RubyandPearl
Son knows Lisa from college.
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He doesn't "know her from college," because he didn't know her to begin with. He knows she went to the same college he did-- that's it.
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Originally Posted by RubyandPearl
Yeah it could be argued that Dad's too involved but it is often the case in traditional religious families that generations are close.
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Look, I get asking friends, parents, or other trusted family members for advice on social or romantic situations. But I imagine one doesn't usually expect that friend or family member to then go ask about it on the internet... that's the part I find a bit odd.
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Originally Posted by zentropa
Also, and I've asked it before, where is the mom? I feel sure a woman would have a different perspective on this cringey situation.
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*Shrug* Maybe she's not in the picture, for whatever reason-- left, divorced, dead, son just didn't want to ask his mom for relationship advice. If mom was posting, would we be asking where was dad?
Of course, I notice that OP has checked out from this thread and we're all just arguing among ourselves at this point...