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Originally Posted by elnrgby
They don't want to hurt your feelings. Having a boyfriend sounds like an objective obstacle to dating you (which presumably has nothing to do with you), while telling you they are not interested presumably means you are not interesting enough.
I'm an old lady who posts in the Retirement forum, but I clicked on Relationships by mistake, the only reason for my participation in this discussion :-). My long-term boyfriend is deceased, so I can use the objective fact of being still attached to his memory to decline advances from any amorous old dude who doesn't interest me. But if you don't have such an objective excuse handy, what can you do? I wouldn't tell anyone to his face that he doesn't interest me.
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I would. And I have.
But not for the reasons that one may think.
First of all, just because I may find someone physically attractive doesn't mean I'd want to date them.
And just because I may find their personality to be "fun" doesn't mean I'd want to date them.
I've met men who have had both qualities, but I wasn't interested in dating THEM because I wasn't interested in
dating ANYONE. So, my lack of interest had nothing to do with THEM, but ME. I'm simply not interested in dating anyone
at all, no matter how "attractive" one is. I have things going on in my own life right now, and I don't want any distractions.
Yet...some men won't accept that, somehow believing that I "secretly" don't like them for some reason.
Heads up, guys. Sometimes, it really isn't about YOU!