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Ok. I retired nearly six years ago from a very stressful job (I was a CPS worker). I ran into a former colleague somewhere - a younger woman, quite attractive - we sat and talked shop (she had resigned some years back, and opened her own real estate business). Anyway, single mom, young daughter, yada yada...
She bought a decent home. Says she has guys do her landscaping, her yard, plow the snow in the winter... and in turn she says, "I date 'em." I wanted to ask her to elaborate further, but somehow we got sidetracked and I forgot about it.
Is this to mean that she sleeps with these guys? Lets them wine and dine her and take her to bed?
I know it ain't my business, but I wonder how she explains that to her young daughter! Jeez...
Who knows what it means? I think you know enough about her at this point to back off and look elsewhere for female company, though. This is like the university professors who have no social life outside of work, so they try to date their students. Ew.
Highly unethical, no matter what happens or doesn't happen, OP. Her employees can't refuse if they want to stay employed with her, and continue getting paid. She probably doesn't think of it that way, but neither to the college profs who have leverage over their students due to controlling their grades. If your former co-worker is as attractive as you say, why isn't she looking outside her employee pool for company?
If she’s trading sex for work, maybe it happens while the kid’s at school.
Even if she's dating her tradespeople, it doesn't necessarily mean she's trading sex for work. She might just think that guys who can fix things are hot.
Even if she's dating her tradespeople, it doesn't necessarily mean she's trading sex for work. She might just think that guys who can fix things are hot.
If that's so, she can go on OLD and find tradesmen to date. She doesn't need to date the people she pays do fix stuff.
It is more convenient. And maybe she gets a discount
Of course it's more convenient. And all the university instructors who try to date their students think they don't need to develop a social life outside of work, because their workplace is full of bright, attractive young women. But dating their students just happens to be not only unethical and predatory, it violates their employer's rules of employee conduct. Fortunately for the OP's acquaintance, she's not answerable to an employer or ethics committee.
But I wonder: how does she know the guys she hires are single and available? Is that part of her interview process, when she decides whom to hire? What if they're not interested in her fringe benefits; do they get fired? WTH?! I suspect she's on a power trip, and takes her employees' attention as a form of flattery, an ego-boost.
Of course it's more convenient. And all the university instructors who try to date their students think they don't need to develop a social life outside of work, because their workplace is full of bright, attractive young women. But dating their students just happens to be not only unethical and predatory, it violates their employer's rules of employee conduct.
A university situation is not exactly the same because of the power and age differentials between the people involved. A client/tradesperson relationship isn't exactly the same dynamic. If they're single, consenting adults, there's less opportunity for abuse or manipulation.
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