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^ o.p. is judging humans who choose to consensually date persons they have a contract with; the same way that, the presidents of the boston celtics/a.b.c.-disney judged (and ultimately fired) contract employees that chose to consensually date each other.
That’s not what the thread is about tho. Trading sex for services is what the O.P. is implying about his “friend” AND Bootsamillion is convinced she is “using multiple men” to mow her yard or plow snow…like she can’t afford to pay somebody to mow her yard without using her body. But she is a realtor that bought a house!
I think you are showing some gullibility. OP jumped to salacious conclusions, based on an offhand comment from a woman he feels some proprietary way about. You'll note he has left out his half of the conversation, jumping from "Says she has guys do her landscaping, her yard, plow the snow in the winter"... to... "In turn she says, "I date 'em."
In turn to what? OP does not tell us what he said that she responded to "in turn."
He has a long history of this based on his years of postings. He also likes to gossip and think/talk about sex a lot. So consider the source.
It is highly doubtful this self-sufficient, community-facing businesswoman is trading sex for home maintenance, but she sure knows how to get a rise out of the OP.
More likely she meets a great number of tradespeople in her local real estate circles and occasionally accepts a date with one of them.
^ o.p. is judging humans who choose to consensually date persons they have a contract with; the same way that, the presidents of the boston celtics/a.b.c.-disney judged (and ultimately fired) contract employees that chose to consensually date each other.
That is a stretch. The person Ime was involved with was married to a person in the organization, and by many reports calling it consensual is a stretch. They were also told to stop and they didn't.
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I think you are showing some gullibility.
Ha, noooo. I don’t believe a realtor who buys her own house has to date or sleep with a landscaper because she can’t get her grass mowed any other way. It’s just a way to be insulting to women so I don’t take it seriously.
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He has a long history of this based on his years of postings. He also likes to gossip and think/talk about sex a lot. So consider the source.
Ok. I retired nearly six years ago from a very stressful job (I was a CPS worker). I ran into a former colleague somewhere - a younger woman, quite attractive - we sat and talked shop (she had resigned some years back, and opened her own real estate business). Anyway, single mom, young daughter, yada yada...
She bought a decent home. Says she has guys do her landscaping, her yard, plow the snow in the winter... and in turn she says, "I date 'em." I wanted to ask her to elaborate further, but somehow we got sidetracked and I forgot about it.
Is this to mean that she sleeps with these guys? Lets them wine and dine her and take her to bed?
I know it ain't my business, but I wonder how she explains that to her young daughter! Jeez...
This is what happens, see, she's a single mother and she's got what I call a "Frankenman" --- which is a "man" created from parts of various different men at different times. She's got one for this, one for that, and sleeps with whomever (either one main guy for sex, or multiple men to fill that void..) But at the end of the day, she's alone raising her daughter with no man that wants to wife her. Either that's how she wants it, or that's the only way she can get she what she wants. But the fact that she told you about it, just means she likes to feel like she's the one in control, so she makes it out like these are good arrangements w/ men,, and not pathetic or sad when she has an impressionable young daughter in the home.
"...opened her own real estate business..." <<<---that should have been your first clue, lol
This is what happens, see, she's a single mother and she's got what I call a "Frankenman" --- which is a "man" created from parts of various different men at different times. She's got one for this, one for that, and sleeps with whomever (either one main guy for sex, or multiple men to fill that void..) But at the end of the day, she's alone raising her daughter with no man that wants to wife her. Either that's how she wants it, or that's the only way she can get she what she wants. But the fact that she told you about it, just means she likes to feel like she's the one in control, so she makes it out like these are good arrangements w/ men,, and not pathetic or sad when she has an impressionable young daughter in the home.
"...opened her own real estate business..." <<<---that should have been your first clue, lol
You're a woman, right? I can't think why you would post such a garbage take, based entirely on your lurid imagination and obvious bias. I think you must have some problem with successful women or single mothers who date.
You know, it is possible to be a single parent with a child at home and date respectfully and discreetly without the need to bring a new replacement man into the home permanently (which can be far more damaging). I did it for 10 years. I know lots who have and do.
You're a woman, right? I can't think why you would post such a garbage take, based entirely on your lurid imagination and obvious bias. I think you must have some problem with successful women or single mothers who date.
You know, it is possible to be a single parent with a child at home and date respectfully and discreetly without the need to bring a new replacement man into the home permanently (which can be far more damaging). I did it for 10 years. I know lots who have and do.
Well, with everybody in our neighborhood having security cameras & pool companies that don’t send the same person every time anyway, I don’t know about that. They would think they were being set up. IMO, somebody who is going to sleep with or date the “pool boy” or the guy who mows her yard doesn’t get out much & doesn’t have many options. The O.P. makes her sound super desperate…like she not only does that but she does it as a way to get a free lawn mow because she can’t afford to pay a guy to do it. It’s a lawn mow…not a kilo of coke.
Who says these guys work for a professional service. Could be she enjoys casual sex and the guys she sleeps with volunteer to do yard work, etc.
What makes you think sleeping with the "pool boy" means you dont get out much or have options. Maybe she is just an opportunist.
Who knows what she means. If its going to make a difference in how he feels about this woman, move on.
As far as explaining it to her young daughter, really? Adults dont normally have to explain their sex lives to their young children. I assuming she does not sleep with them in the presence of her child.
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Who says these guys work for a professional service. Could be she enjoys casual sex and the guys she sleeps with volunteer to do yard work, etc.
It’s super weird that ppl are speculating about some woman they don’t know having sex & why she does it. It’s bad enough the O.P. is saying it about his “friend” but to see other ppl join is just…well…weird.
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What makes you think sleeping with the "pool boy" means you dont get out much or have options. Maybe she is just an opportunist.
So..really? It’s like a bad & unimaginative old porn movie. And, “pool boy” sounds like a high school kid that made it all up or is dreaming about sleeping with her.
So..really? It’s like a bad & unimaginative old porn movie. And, “pool boy” sounds like a high school kid that made it all up or is dreaming about sleeping with her.
Pool boys and House boys do exist. It's not unusual in certain areas.
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