Wife found out I slept with a co-worker before we got into a relationship.

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I was thinking about this again. So, what did the girlfriend think you were doing while she was involved in the 13 year relationship? Why is sleeping with a coworker any worse than you sleeping with anyone? I don't get it. You could have been sleeping with a neighbor or a woman in your apartment building, a woman at the gym, a woman who works at the local neighborhood bar, etc. She can't expect you to be locked in your house living like a monk during the same time period she was screwing this person she lived with.

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Originally Posted by Joshie1987

Long story short. Me and her worked at a retail store the same time. I eventually moved up in the company while said co-worker did too. The relationship between me and said co worker might have been more noticeable to some co workers in the company than what I thought. I eventually left the company and the other co worker moved up in the company.

I think some of my old workers might have mentioned some things and she brought it to my attention today. Although she did ask roughly 2 years before about this co-worker to which I stated nothing happened again due to my beliefs the past is the past and to focus on what you have in front of you now aka me.

IF you are still in touch with some former colleagues, why on earth would they mention your relationship with a co-worker in front of your wife. And, of course, how would they know for sure -- in the first place.

I know one can never say never....but will you EVER run into this former lover/co-worker again in life? You could always have said the blabby former colleague doesn't know what they're talking about.

That would be continuing the lie so I probably wouldn't advise that. But why is your wife so sure that former co-work who open his/her big mouth actually knows what happened between you and someone else?


Interesting that this is yet another thread -- difference circumstances completely -- about people lying about past relationships...and it's not the relationship, but the lie that's now the issue.