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It sounds to me like he's interested in you and is working up the nerve to make a move. Give him a while to get his case in order. From what limited information you have given me, I surmise that he is artsy, reserved, probably not exactly oozing confidence and maybe not the most proactive person ever. Fairly close? If so, let him work this out. He'll make a move eventually. It may not be the smoothest thing ever, but this is difficult for a shy guy. If you are impatient and want to speed things up start making gratuitous physical contact. Make sure your legs and elbows are touching while watching a movie, if he hands you something (remote control, drink can, etc.) make sure there is a little more than normal hand-to-hand touch, ask for a back rub because your shoulders hurt, etc. This generally gives him enough of a boost to just come out and say what he's thinking or make a pass (if he makes a pass just go with it). I would advise against putting him on the spot by initiating conversation about the sexual tension. If he's not ready to talk about it that will be extremely uncomfortable for him. Let him be the man, or at least think he's being the man. It will be good for him.
I'd say to enjoy the platonic part of the relationship longer. My boyfriend is 23 years younger than me and we really are proud of the six months together as platonic best friends and cherish those memories. And if this guy is really into you, then I think that he doesn't want it to be just a short-lived fling. Best friends are forever, lovers not so much which is why we took so long to move to the next level of our friendship. Independently, both of us felt we didn't want to wreck the great friendship we already had. Once you start having sex with a close friend, everything changes forever.
So before you go making the first move, just be sure that you really like him and don't go and break his heart.
It sounds to me like he's interested in you and is working up the nerve to make a move. Give him a while to get his case in order. From what limited information you have given me, I surmise that he is artsy, reserved, probably not exactly oozing confidence and maybe not the most proactive person ever. Fairly close? If so, let him work this out. He'll make a move eventually. It may not be the smoothest thing ever, but this is difficult for a shy guy. If you are impatient and want to speed things up start making gratuitous physical contact. Make sure your legs and elbows are touching while watching a movie, if he hands you something (remote control, drink can, etc.) make sure there is a little more than normal hand-to-hand touch, ask for a back rub because your shoulders hurt, etc. This generally gives him enough of a boost to just come out and say what he's thinking or make a pass (if he makes a pass just go with it). I would advise against putting him on the spot by initiating conversation about the sexual tension. If he's not ready to talk about it that will be extremely uncomfortable for him. Let him be the man, or at least think he's being the man. It will be good for him.
It sounds like he's really into you, but being polite/reserved. Give it time and it will develop into what it's meant to be. Some men take their time and get to know women before they make any big moves. Enjoy each step of the journey!
Hey all of you who helped me with this... just so you know how it worked out (I read these and find that I want to know how things turn out for people sometimes)
He is, indeed, "into" me, or in his words, he "has feelings for me." We did talk and we feel the same way. We have crushes on eachother, but the musical relationship is the winner. We both love hangin out and playing our music and hope to play publically soon, a romantic vien would destroy it for sure. What is cool is that we can now flirt a little and have fun but and the tension and wondering is gone ! Thanks all. Peace
Oh please! I'm glad you two have figured out where you stand with each other, but seriously... Buh-GAWK!
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