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Well , Riv, your pun is quite funny, but I didn't say that (and besides I'm not into gerontophilia)....
I have to say that I find it *quite* amusing that you refer to the idea of being with a woman only 7 years older than yourself as "gerontophilia," and call them "grandmas," yet you seem to believe that women in their 30's and 40's *should* be attracted YOU. Funny. As a woman in my early 30's (with female friends of the same age) I can assure you that the idea of "gettin' jiggy" with a guy 20+ years older than ourselves is, well, repulsive. I'm not into "gerontophilia" either. And I'm not into "grandpas".... Feel good?
I prefer men that are 45-50+. Something happens to a man after 45 that magnifies his sex appeal - a man gets much hotter mentally/physically with age. Last two men I dated were in their mid-50's, my preference.
Get some plastic surgery, buy new clothes, take a long trip somewhere you've always wanted to go, have a Vedic astrology reading, join a gym, get on the right diet; something youth enhancing like Perricone or Eat Right for Your Type, shave off the comb-over, buy or sell your house, move to a cool neighborhood, get a motorcycle, adopt a pet, watch the show Californication, volunteer for a cause, go on Viagra, go back to school-- do whatever you have to to energize yourself and shake up your world. Don't be a desperate dude. Be EXCITING, live in the now. It's only all over if you think it is, so don't go there, please.
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I've recently turned 53 and -call it classical mid-life crisis- I'm realizing with awe and terror that opportunities for new (nonpaying) sentimental relationships seem to dwindle considerably with age, and I'm now verging on depression (I picture myself at 70).
I was never an Apollo but from time to time I saw some twinkle in the eyes of some females looking at me...- now-finito.
- 20 to 30 years old : I'm not interested anyway, there is a generational chasm, so I'm not upset if I'm transparent to them.But curiously sometimes they are nicer to me (even if I know it doesn't mean a thing) than older women
- Older women (35 to 50): that's the problem. I should have some good calls with these ladies slightly younger than me but grossly of the same age bracket : NOTHING ; absolutely nothing happens, these women are as cold as ice
-so that leaves me with the grandmas ? 60 and over ?
I prefer men that are 45-50+. Something happens to a man after 45 that magnifies his sex appeal - a man gets much hotter mentally/physically with age. Last two men I dated were in their mid-50's, my preference.
going for the money, huh? smart girl
like artsy said, it's over at 40 and it's way earlier than that if you're gay
but, age is a number. if you relate, you relate. ignore society's mandates and opinions and enjoy the person for who she is and how she makes you feel
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I think that this guy is out of touch with reality! He is a grandpa and thinks that a grandma type would be beneath him...no pun intended....
Some women do like older men, but it is generally associated with financial security or desperation on both parties sides.
Women of a certain age are becoming more fit and youthful. These women also have successful careers so they don't have to settle anymore. Sociey is much more accepting of younger guys with older women.
Times have changed.
I have to say that I find it *quite* amusing that you refer to the idea of being with a woman only 7 years older than yourself as "gerontophilia," and call them "grandmas," yet you seem to believe that women in their 30's and 40's *should* be attracted YOU. Funny. As a woman in my early 30's (with female friends of the same age) I can assure you that the idea of "gettin' jiggy" with a guy 20+ years older than ourselves is, well, repulsive. I'm not into "gerontophilia" either. And I'm not into "grandpas".... Feel good?
Well-ROLF- my live-in companion is actually 59!!!!!!!!!!!! it's OK with me actually, but 6 years difference is the upper limit in my view...and yes, when I was in my early 20's and I saw older guys like my father (upper 40's then) going out with young pretty models my age then (22), I felt disgusted, so I agree with your point.
But I don't feel like a grandpa yet (my health is very good, and I'm very fit) rather a middle-aged guy, ready to live (at least) 53X2 years!
And I would loathe -absolutely LOATHE-to play the "dirty old man".
The thing is , I fell "head over heels" for that gal who happens to be 34, I didn't make it on purpose,it's just a feeling that overwhelmed me and it had nothing do to with her youth but with her personality (very mature),actually seeing her I thought she was younger, I was kind of relieved to learn she was "that old".
My so was also under her spell, -we were together vacationing on the beach-actually it's HER that started conversing with her, I wouldn't have dreamt of doing it.
I'd rather not fall in love if I could, or with a woman my age, believe me.
Of course, Giesela, and I must emphasize that I'm not at all in the "younger crowd " thing, we are too different!
And with 6ft 2, nice brown hair with only a few grey strangs, good build, average/good income, good literacy (well you can judge on this Forum, I want to emphasize the fact that English is NOT even my mother tongue) I don't think I'm a jerk!
It just happened I had a sudden, unplanned for, crunch for a woman that was
way younger than me but still a mature women (and cerainly with a very mature behaviour)and not a teen (50 years ago at 34 men and women alike were already considered middle-age).
And after having read Cheryl Lavine's column in the Chicago Tribune on August 27th,(the CG is I acknowledge a mainstream newspaper, not some extreme Cougar Power advocacy group) bearing the title "Some are able to Find Happiness with Much Older Mates"), I wonder if the ranting of our friend Mojo Riley is not slightly prejudiced -maybe she has-or her female friends have-some personal issues with older guys ?
They're tired of the jerks their age and can appreciate some maturity.
I would venture a guess that the mjority of them are either caught up in their careers or already spoken for and doing the "family thing".
Well, maybe it leaves you with having to find new avenues of meeting up with the age group you're interested in.
Actually, those 35 - 50 year olds are quite self sufficient and know they don't need a man to complete them. Younger women often think they need a man to complete them, hence they're less picky than us older ones. They are often attracted to older men because they see them as better able to take care of them. Us older broads are perfectly capable of taking care of ourselves, thank you.
Had my husband and I divorced last year (or if we don't make it and we might not after everything that has happened) I had no intention of dating. It would take a lot more to turn my head at 49 than it did at 29. I'd rather be alone than end up in another bad relationship.
In other words, older women are smarter.
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it's OK with me actually, but 6 years difference is the upper limit in my view...and yes, when I was in my early 20's and I saw older guys like my father (upper 40's then) going out with young pretty models my age then (22), I felt disgusted, so I agree with your point.
