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Sablebaby- after all that time together, would you get married now? Why haven't you made the union "official" as they say? What else are you still trying to figure out about your boyfriend before signing on the dotted line? You know all the small print already I would think.
It's just a question (well, several). I'm curious. Your relationship sounds like a marriage without the paper. What keeps it that way?
What about all the creative mortgages, 100% financing and no doc loans?
You mean the ring with the price tag that quadruples before being paid off?
Wedding bells:
Some people do really well together, totally committed or by whatever other arrangement without ever getting legally married and I'm all for that - don't need to fix it if it isn't broken (certainly others here will view the arrangement differently)...
Property ownership (as MoMark points out), financial responsibility, insurance coverage and Last Will & Testament become complicated in some states if the partners are deemed common law...
I think if someone wants to get married - GREAT! If not, GREAT! But hopefully they are of like mind on this...
OK but IF you do end up having to get divorced, make sure the ring, especially a real expensive one, stays with you. It does not become part of the settlement!!! :-)
For that matter, why spend $20, 30, 50K on the wedding?????
Commercialism! Just like the cereal ads.
I have no idea either.
Engagement rings? Didn't have any.
Wedding rings? 400€ for both. Handmade by a local artisian, gold and silver.
Wedding? 200€ for the civil ceremony.
Reception? 1000€, though that was completely at the insistence of my parents-in-law. They paid for it all. It was absolutely awesome.
Everything was also paid all in cash. We weren't going to sell our souls to get married like some of my friends did. What kind of way is that to start out a marriage?
Shouldn't a wedding be at least somewhat of a celebration? I mean, I think way too many people go extremely overboard and buy lots of things they don't need. But I know in our case, we're thrilled to share the experience with all of our friends and family. Granted, we're still trying to make everything as cheap as possible (we'd rather put more money toward a down payment on a house), but we'd still like to have a nice wedding.
It's nearly impossible to not spend money if you're having more than a civil ceremony, but I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing. As long as you're not a young couple spending $50,000 on a wedding, I think it's a fantastic way to celebrate the union.
Ha, you can, but you'll have to think outside the box. That is hard if you are dead set on the bells and whistles traditional wedding. I wasn't and neither was my husband. Our reception was this:
Not what you would expect, and dare I say, some people would say an insult to the seriousness of marriage. However, it was one of the best days of my life. Everyone agreed, it was the best wedding reception they had ever been to. I think there were about 60-70 people in attendence all and all. It was in my PIL backyard and garage. Full BBQ and all the booze you could drink. It lasted for over 11 hours. All for 1000€.
Of course, you don't have to go that far in the other direction as we did.
Note: The civil ceremony was two days prior, family only. No pirate costumes there.
My engagement ring = $100.00, give or take. Went to a gem show, wanted a marquis aquamarine (birthstone) and white gold. Bought the stone and had it set right there. Not hugely romantic, but exactly what I wanted.
Wedding bands, had crafted by a local artist. Was my idea but my husband did the illustration. Did not exactly turn out as I'd hoped...translated to my husband's ring better than mine, as it became a rather masculine design...so when my 5th anniversary came around, I asked if I could have a different ring? Wanted something antique but had other important expenses upcoming...Went to Overstock.com and found an old-looking-but-new...and I like it well enough.
I was going to elope. Boy, I wish I had. I made the mistake of telling my mother. OK, that was stupid, but I knew she would have been offended if I just up and got hitched...that all ended with me agreeing to a ceremony for the family or else being disowned...(you think I'm kidding?) Bad enough I am the only atheist and it wasn't going to be a church wedding...
Wedding...we were going to drive down to Old Key West and had a guesthouse reserved that weekend for the entire (small) party, so that everybody could just enjoy themselves when the secular ceremony was over. My folks were going to spend a certain amount...they insisted...but it still wasn't a huge number - I networked with the guesthouse where we'd stayed several times before and everyone involved was accommodating.
We were going to have a simple, tropical wedding.
Then we had Hurricane Irene change all that.
Two friends who had gone down a week early got stuck there alone for a day and no-one else could or would drive down (never trust the Weather Channel - I swear they find the deepest puddle and stand in it). The roads were open and fine...my pals drove back up (5 hours) and we were married at their house. On the fly, my brother's ex-wife drove down from Martin County and with license performed the ceremony for us.
The whole thing, had it happened, would have been $4000.00?
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Oh that's so cute Sonnenwende. I would have backed you up!
33458. I HAD to have a church wedding. I'm an only child and my mother HAD to see her daughter walk down the isle in a long white dress. Well, I got a dress and this real colorful bouquet. I was a size 4 at the time (many, MANY, moons ago). I went with my best friend (this was in NYC) and picked out a dress with an empire waist that made me look 7 mths. pregnant (I wasn't but I was rebellious). My mother never saw the dress until that day. I had a teeney weeney get together after the ceremony just to keep my mother happy. This was a cake and champagne for the bridal party, for pictures sake.
As far as I was concerned, I would have been much happier with the civil thing alone - if anything at all.
I did get a engagement ring though, which I still have to this day (35 years later). I've had the diamond re-set I don't know how many times. Now, it's become a pendant! hahahahaha.
Oh.. about the ring... it used to bother me and get in my way because it was one of these high settings so I wouldn't wear it. That husband had a very thin, simple, white gold band made for me so I wouldn't have anything to complain about. Darn!
All these teenage weddings take me a bit aback.
When I was 17-18, I was going to highschool, enjoying rock concerts, and babysitting--plus getting ready to go to college.
I didn't get married until I was 27 years old.
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