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I have been living with my boyfriend for 7 months, and we are going to get married. What confuses me is that my parents never said anything about me living with him until just last night, and they want me to move out until we get married. I am Christian, and I was a virgin until I was 19. I really did try to wait until I was married, but I obviously didn't. What should I do?
missy, maybe it'll settle your parents, concience if you separated til marriage, or maybe they themselves, dont want the questions from thier peers, about the two of you already livin together.
are your parents paying for the wedding? do you have a decent relationship with them? if yes, no matter how much it sucks, it may be best to grant thier wish, it will start the wedding out on the right foot, and parents may respect thier future son in law a bit more.
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missy, maybe it'll settle your parents, concience if you separated til marriage, or maybe they themselves, dont want the questions from thier peers, about the two of you already livin together.
are your parents paying for the wedding? do you have a decent relationship with them? if yes, no matter how much it sucks, it may be best to grant thier wish, it will start the wedding out on the right foot, and parents may respect thier future son in law a bit more.
No. It doesn't make any sense to me at all. Why on earth would they have something against the living together SEVEN months later????? They couldn't decide or what??? And how can you live with someone then split up until marriage to then get back together again. Nope.
There's more to this than that.
vp, some mothers are over-bearing, meaning they like to get involved in all the wedding plans etc, im not saying this is the case here, however, many brides and mothers strive for that "perfect wedding" and it wont be perfect if'n mother has to answer questions of why her little girl is already (gasp) livin with the groom.
i dont think this way, but i know many parents that would react this way
I have been living with my boyfriend for 7 months, and we are going to get married. What confuses me is that my parents never said anything about me living with him until just last night, and they want me to move out until we get married. I am Christian, and I was a virgin until I was 19. I really did try to wait until I was married, but I obviously didn't. What should I do?
Since you are a Christian you know that the word of God does not change and you know what you should do.
dear mam,u touch asensitive& essintial things in our life the person should own him self,his right,his beleavment,his soul,his happyness.he shoud know what he wants because,life is very short never go back.think about what u left as memory in the sorrounding,what impression u left behind u, never loose ur self under any pressure,never be hurry if it will be main dessision,directed the hole of ur short life,look for happyness it is arround u, think n then proceed all will be excited u
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My husband and I are Christians, and we did not live together before we were married. It was very hard, but well worth it. To be honest, I can't find a place in the Bible that says you can't live with each other before you're married. The Bible does say that you aren't to have sex outside of marriage. It also says that your father gives you to your husband. There's an idea that you go from the care of your father to the care of your husband. I know this isn't very popular now, but believe me, there is something quite special about the day you leave the care of you father and mother and go under the love and care of the man you'll be with for the rest of your life.
I have to point out that you should wait not because the Catholic church told you to, but because God commaded it. If you decide not to move in because you want to please others, you're not doing yourself any good. This should come out of a heart that desires to please God.
Plus, it's statistically proven that marriages last longer if the couple didn't live together before married!
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Times Have changed, so shouldn't God?
No. The Bible says that God is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Would you really want to put your faith in a God who changes with the times? Yikes. How could you trust that what He says is absolute truth?
My husband and I are Christians, and we did not live together before we were married. It was very hard, but well worth it. To be honest, I can't find a place in the Bible that says you can't live with each other before you're married. The Bible does say that you aren't to have sex outside of marriage. It also says that your father gives you to your husband. There's an idea that you go from the care of your father to the care of your husband. I know this isn't very popular now, but believe me, there is something quite special about the day you leave the care of you father and mother and go under the love and care of the man you'll be with for the rest of your life.
I have to point out that you should wait not because the Catholic church told you to, but because God commaded it. If you decide not to move in because you want to please others, you're not doing yourself any good. This should come out of a heart that desires to please God.
Plus, it's statistically proven that marriages last longer if the couple didn't live together before married!
No. The Bible says that God is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Would you really want to put your faith in a God who changes with the times? Yikes. How could you trust that what He says is absolute truth?
Ok, yes they are correct, to a piont. But, in the Bible men were aloud to have as many wives as they wanted . And, in the Bible they didn't have weddings, that's a man made thing of today's standards. All they had to do is basically say I'll marry you. In Biblical time a minister wasn't always available way out in the boondocks. Usually the father of the bride to be, just simply handed her over with some dowery to a fella and she was married. Besides that, all wedding licenses are for so the government can keep tabs on us.
I know of a couple that never got married over fifty years ago, but had several childeren and lots of grand kids. And both died in they're early 80's. So did they live in sin? I think not. They raised the kids in a good Christian home, full of love and respect for each other. And, the Mother and children had the Fathers last name.
Live your life the best way you know how, respect others, love all and don't sit there pointing your finger at others people because they're not living their lives the way you think they should be. Remember, when you judge other, so you shell be judged. If it makes you happy forget what others have to say.
Ok, yes they are correct, to a piont. But, in the Bible men were aloud to have as many wives as they wanted . And, in the Bible they didn't have weddings, that's a man made thing of today's standards. All they had to do is basically say I'll marry you. In Biblical time a minister wasn't always available way out in the boondocks. Usually the father of the bride to be, just simply handed her over with some dowery to a fella and she was married. Besides that, all wedding licenses are for so the government can keep tabs on us.
I know of a couple that never got married over fifty years ago, but had several childeren and lots of grand kids. And both died in they're early 80's. So did they live in sin? I think not. They raised the kids in a good Christian home, full of love and respect for each other. And, the Mother and children had the Fathers last name.
Live your life the best way you know how, respect others, love all and don't sit there pointing your finger at others people because they're not living their lives the way you think they should be. Remember, when you judge other, so you shell be judged. If it makes you happy forget what others have to say.
Yes sometimes a man did have more than one wife in the Bible but it was NOT allowed this was outside the will of God.
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. And, in the Bible they didn't have weddings, that's a man made thing of today's standards. All they had to do is basically say I'll marry you. In Biblical time a minister wasn't always available way out in the boondocks. Usually the father of the bride to be, just simply handed her over with some dowery to a fella and she was married. Besides that, all wedding licenses are for so the government can keep tabs on us. 
forget what others have to say.
