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Think of it this way. I know some people who are quite brilliant in almost every area yet are poor at math. Some people are gifted artists yet do not understand science. Everybody has some things they are good at and others that they are not. Just because someone is intelligent does not change this. They still have areas where they excel and others where they basically suck. It is also entirely possible to communicate in writing quite well, but be awkward in person, I tend to be in that category, but I have been improving over the years.
Now, whether the OP's social issues are a true lack of ability or simply a lack of interest in developing such skills is unknown. That really cannot be known without personally meeting and getting to know a person.
I truly hope she is able to discover the source of her difficulties and overcome them. It sucks to be alone. I also know what it is like to have a hard time making friends, much less find someone you can share your life with.
We all have areas we excel at and others we struggle with but that does not excuse not dealing with the ones you struggle with.
When it comes to getting along with others, practice is a very good thing. No matter how inept you are, you can practice being nice and not acting stuck up. After a while, it will actually come naturally.
We all have areas we excel at and others we struggle with but that does not excuse not dealing with the ones you struggle with.
When it comes to getting along with others, practice is a very good thing. No matter how inept you are, you can practice being nice and not acting stuck up. After a while, it will actually come naturally.
I am feeling the need to quote from 'Harold and Maude'
Harold: You sure have a way with people.
Maude: Well, they're my species.
It's not that hard to find common ground with others and to be able to get along with others...it is a choice.
We all have areas we excel at and others we struggle with but that does not excuse not dealing with the ones you struggle with.
When it comes to getting along with others, practice is a very good thing. No matter how inept you are, you can practice being nice and not acting stuck up. After a while, it will actually come naturally.
True, but keep in mind we don't know the age of the OP. Developing social skills takes years. Hopefully she is aware of this problem and is trying to work on it. As with any emotional problem, it is usually more effective to get an outsiders view on the situation. Being inside of it makes it hard to have an objective take on what the problem is and how to correct it. This forum is a good place to start, someone who interacts regularly with the OP would be an even better resource.
True, but keep in mind we don't know the age of the OP. Developing social skills takes years. Hopefully she is aware of this problem and is trying to work on it. As with any emotional problem, it is usually more effective to get an outsiders view on the situation. Being inside of it makes it hard to have an objective take on what the problem is and how to correct it. This forum is a good place to start, someone who interacts regularly with the OP would be an even better resource.
What is not effective is blaming emotional problems on your high IQ (which I have to wonder why it took so long to discover ). Much of what I've read here sounds more like excusing emotional issues because of intelligence. If you know you have an issue, you can either choose to deal with it or not deal with it but there's no excusing it once you know it exists unless it's unchangable. Social skills are learned and are changable. If the set you have isn't working for you, then get a new set.
I find it funny intelligence is the excuse too. My husband does have a genius IQ but I don't. Yet he is the more social of the two of us.
That is why there are so many issues with racism, sexual discrimination, gay bashing, etc...we are more alike than we are different.
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I'm about done for the night as well.
). Much of what I've read here sounds more like excusing emotional issues because of intelligence. If you know you have an issue, you can either choose to deal with it or not deal with it but there's no excusing it once you know it exists unless it's unchangable. Social skills are learned and are changable. If the set you have isn't working for you, then get a new set. 
