Talking about your past wife

[Tzaphkiel]

if i was a woman, it would be less about what a man says about a past relationship, and more about how attached he is still to that relationship. What is important to me in ANY relationship (and everybody has ex-es in their past) is how available the man is to me in the present, versus how much he is still working through his past relationships.

In general the longer the man was with his previous wife or girlfriend in the previous relationship, the more time is needed for him to heal through the loss. Time alone does not do it, emotional health requires conscious attention and energy.

best wishes to you!

i would look at the overall emotional health of the man, any man, in gauging his availability for the current relationship. as a woman i actually appreciate it when a man shares stories of his past in a natural conversational way. His past is a part of who he is. When I am with someone i like to get to know them, so all facets of him are precious to me, that includes hearing about his childhood, his family growing up, and yes his exes are part of that so them too.

Because it is through hearing him share his stories that I come to know him better.

i'm much more comfortable when someone is able to share, than when they hide or keep secret whole big parts of themselves because that to me can be a block to intimacy. if she is choosing you to be with and to marry, then most likely she is open to accepting all of you including your past marriage