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This issue was raised in another thread and I was wondering how you all felt about it.
I'm in my mid-thirties and quite old-fashioned in thinking that it's a guy who should approach, call first, etc... Is this old-fashioned or is this the way most women really feel?
Do more younger women these days feel comfortable making the first move vs. older women?
I'm 46. I'll make the first move without even thinking about it. It's so much easier than waiting around for the guy to get up the nerve. If I make the first move, I don't waste any time waiting, and can find out right away if he's interested or not. And if it scares him off, he's not man enough for me anyway.
I think it's highly outdated/old-fashioned to expect the man to make the first move.
I'm 46. I'll make the first move without even thinking about it. It's so much easier than waiting around for the guy to get up the nerve. If I make the first move, I don't waste any time waiting, and can find out right away if he's interested or not. And if it scares him off, he's not man enough for me anyway.
I think it's highly outdated/old-fashioned to expect the man to make the first move.
I like how you think and admire you for it. It's just so unfamiliar to me. I started dating at 14 and got married at 24, during which time, I was never single. Guys just seemed to pop out of everywhere. I never had to do it and the thought just seems so unfamiliar. Now, separated at 36, it's starting all over again. (Not dating yet though) But, eventually when I start dating again, it's good to get a perspective on what things are like nowadays.
I like how you think and admire you for it. It's just so unfamiliar to me. I started dating at 14 and got married at 24, during which time, I was never single. Guys just seemed to pop out of everywhere. I never had to do it and the thought just seems so unfamiliar. Now, separated at 36, it's starting all over again. (Not dating yet though) But, eventually when I start dating again, it's good to get a perspective on what things are like nowadays.
Men are notoriously slow-moving when it comes to making a move. At my age, I don't feel like wasting time waiting for them, and when I was younger it was just annoying to wait and wait and wonder if he was interested or not. I like cutting to the chase. It weeds out the weak ones, and the ones that are going to feel threatened by an independent woman.
Of course, you have to be prepared to be refused, but that's all just part of it, and men have been dealing with that for millenia.
I went on a couple of dates (2 times) and my date had to actually make the first move ( as far a holding hands and kissing ), reason being I kept on getting the wrong signal, even though I knew they were attracted to me I couldn't acutally tell if it was ok to take the initiative.
I went on a couple of dates (2 times) and my date had to actually make the first move ( as far a holding hands and kissing ), reason being I kept on getting the wrong signal, even though I knew they were attracted to me I couldn't acutally tell if it was ok to take the initiative.
Isn't the uncertainty the fun part? Or is the old-lady in my coming out?
If I was "available", I'd let him make the first move. And if he's too slow or too lazy... then I'm movin' on.
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