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I just woke up, came downstairs, checked my e-mail and just about flipped out. There was an e-mail from my ex-fiance in my inbox. Now, this is the guy who I loved more than anything and ripped my heart out by leaving me less than three weeks before our wedding, and married someone else four months later.
What he said was basically, I hope you're not offended that I'm writing you. I hope enough time has passed to be over the bitterness. I'm in Afghanistan for the next six months, just wanted to see how you're doing. blah blah blah.
WTF??? Should I write him back and tell him to eff off, tell him how great and wonderful my life is, or just ignore him. Or, should I just send a friendly e-mail back? I don't want to get dragged into some sort of relationship again, even a friendship, because of how bad he hurt me. I'm crying as I write this even though it's been over two years since our break up, and about a year and a half since our last contact, obviously there are issues that I still have about what happened.
Wow! Ummmm what feels right to you? I bet my heart and soul on somebody...That ended over 5 years ago. It still hurts.
I'm resisting replying to him right now until my head is clear enough. I may just ignore it, but I'd really like to tell him off.
I just don't get how he can just send a chit-chatty e-mail, like all the hurt can just be swept under the rug.
His b**** of a wife is probably too busy with her own life to be supportive of him while he's deployed and he knows how great I was to him when he was in Iraq when we were together.
I specifically told him to not contact me again in August 2007, when he sent me a friendly, just to say Hi e-mail. I told him then that he hurt me too much for me to ever be friends with him. Why would he think another year, or ten years, would change that?
Anger transferance! Do you know his wife? OR is she just a b**** because she's his wife and your not?
His b**** of a wife is probably too busy with her own life to be supportive of him while he's deployed and he knows how great I was to him when he was in Iraq when we were together.
I specifically told him to not contact me again in August 2007, when he sent me a friendly, just to say Hi e-mail. I told him then that he hurt me too much for me to ever be friends with him. Why would he think another year, or ten years, would change that?
This is how women get in trouble. You have no idea what is going on in their marriage, and if he is telling you anything, it's going to benefit him. And if you were married to him he'd be saying the same things about you.
Or are you just calling her that out of envy?
Stay out of other peoples marriages and worry about getting your own. You are never going to move on if you keep playing this game.
Men will come back when they are bored (so don't flatter yourself), but only if you allow it.
Forget him,if he can hurt you like he did then he doesn't deserve a response fom you.The best thing to do in my opinion is delete everything that could temt you into giving him a reply and giving him satisfaction.When I split up with my wife a while back I had to delete her number,txt messages and calls made/recieved because I just couldn't put my phone down and just forget.I also deleted everything that was internet related.It just plays on your mind and temps you too much.
I would want to do one of the two..I"d either forward the email to his wife or i'd just totally ignore him altogether..it would depend on how mean I was feeling that day..either way I wouldn't write him back just because that would tick him off the most to get total silence from you
Block his email and move on. Don't even think about him and like what Opti said, don't vent over the wife because she "took" your "was your man."
Oh yeah what could be better than gettn you mad at the wrong person instead of me??
I was crazy angry at my Ex's boyfriend..And she fueled this by say "Rob says..." a lot! And he hates me, based I'm sure on what she's told him. The best manipulators do that..they have everybody angry at the wrong people...them!
I found out from a friend she went after him. He remembered her say "ohh whose that?" to my friend. My friend was friends with him, my wife and me. Now he's only friends with me. Know how I gauge my actions? A ton of my marriages mutual friends are now my sole friends...It took a lot of pain and sobering up and work....and "still i can't find love""...........yet!!!....
She used to accuse me of stealing friends...I have both of her former best female friends on my myspace!! which kills her...nah nah nah,.. nah nah nah nah...hey hey hey..goodbye!
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Should I write him back and tell him to eff off, tell him how great and wonderful my life is, or just ignore him. Or, should I just send a friendly e-mail back? I don't want to get dragged into some sort of relationship again, even a friendship, because of how bad he hurt me. I'm crying as I write this even though it's been over two years since our break up, and about a year and a half since our last contact, obviously there are issues that I still have about what happened.
Booty email?
