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First, there was nothing in his e-mail that sounded like an apology, it was more like, I hope enough time has passed for you to get over whatever you needed to get over so we can be friends and you can relieve my boredom while I'm deployed.
I think in some way he does care about me, but it only makes me hurt more to hear from him. It's too hard on me after what he did.
As far as I know, he's still married but from what I hear from others the marriage isn't perfect. For example, he was assigned to Europe for the past year and a half and instead of going to Europe with him, his wife chose to stay at her job in the States. They haven't lived together in a year and a half and now he's deployed. I'm also given the impression that she doesn't like kids, and he has two awesome boys. Just seems weird to me, but hey, it's not my marriage so I don't dwell on it.
I ended up going against most of the advice and wrote him back. I kept it short and basically said please do not write to me again, there's no need, if you need friendship then write to your wife or your other friends, not to me.
I think what you did was okay -- good even if it helps you. I would think there could be a certain satisfaction in that "I don't waste my time hating you, okay, now you run along, have a good life -- so long, fare well -- adios and good bye". To me it means you said your good bye when earlier you weren't given the chance but it doesn't mean you're going to open yourself up to be hurt again by this individual.
I'm waiting for Chapter 2 - something tells me he'll write again...
Could be a long wait. The last time I told him to not write to me again was a year and a half ago. At least he waited that long. I'm not sure this time, based on how I worded my e-mail back to him if he'll ever write again. I would be surprised if he did. So far he hasn't.
Could be a long wait. The last time I told him to not write to me again was a year and a half ago. At least he waited that long. I'm not sure this time, based on how I worded my e-mail back to him if he'll ever write again. I would be surprised if he did. So far he hasn't.
Really, the guy sounds like a jackass to me...at this point shouldn't you be grateful that you didn't marry him?
That's the thing about love. It can make the most sensible solution one of the most difficult.
I was in a relationship with a guy who was deployed. Emails/internet was a form or escape and entertainment for them. Don't become his computer love.
There is a chance he is genuinely sorry, but I wouldn't risk it. It will be a bigger blow to your self-esteem if it goes down south again. You can blame him the first time- but the second time? You greased the wheels because he already showed you what kind of guy he was.
Take it from someone who made that mistake repeatedly. If he does contact you again, don't write back. If you do, well you are opening yourself up for punishment.
That's the thing about love. It can make the most sensible solution one of the most difficult.
I was in a relationship with a guy who was deployed. Emails/internet was a form or escape and entertainment for them. Don't become his computer love.
There is a chance he is genuinely sorry, but I wouldn't risk it. It will be a bigger blow to your self-esteem if it goes down south again. You can blame him the first time- but the second time? You greased the wheels because he already showed you what kind of guy he was.
Take it from someone who made that mistake repeatedly. If he does contact you again, don't write back. If you do, well you are opening yourself up for punishment.
Yep, I've had some recent fights with my gf (first serious gf since wife passed away) and it's taken a toll. Seems like we have it worked out now...keep dating, we took things too fast but really like each other. We will see how it goes but it has been stressful and an eyeopener as to how rusty I am at dating...especially at this age where every woman I meet is going to have some baggage.
I thought I was ready, but Im probably not, but neither is she....what a pair lol. Sorry to hijack. <sigh\shrug> if it doesnt work out at least I will be emotionally ready for my next relationship.
It's not that bad...I will send you a PM so you get the whole picture.
Saw her last night, going out on Saturday....not changing direction, just the pace.
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