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My wife and I have two rules.
First one. I keep it in my pants and keeps her legs closed. We are intimate only with each other.
Second one. We back each other to the wall. Right,wrong,indifferent. One is behind the other 100%. No when we get behind closed doors in private,we might air the wrongs or over talk one's actions. But in public, we back each other against all commers in any conditions.
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The deal breakers.. LOL omg.. that's why i'm still single.
1.).. not intelligent enough... seriously.. I need Einstein smart.. literally, because I love to talk about all kinds of things, I may be the smartest person, but I love to learn..
2.).. not self-sufficient.. I was married and had to take care of EVERYTHING... not going there again.. if a man has no clue how to caulk windows.. yeah.. hes a goner.
3)... financialy in the dumps.. I don't care about wealth status, but he better live within his means.. i'm not 20 years old now and need to make sure that i'm ok in the next 10. lol
4.).. doesn't want children... likes animals..
5.)... doesn't respect his mom or siblings.. Tells you how he views women a lot!
6.)... real world education.. I need him to be cultured and open minded..
7.).. the 8-5er.. the one that comes home and wants to monopolize my time.. i have independent hobbies.. they are not my entire life.
8.)... I will NOT sacrifice myself for a man.. if I want to go to a concert and he doesn't.. guess what I still go and they need to be ok with that.
Then of course the obvious things..
I just have decided that I need a millionaire.. or someone that is devoted to their work.. I want them to have their OWN hobbies or whatever so I can enjoy mine.. My main rule in dating is this.. live with it or leave it..
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The deal breakers.. LOL omg.. that's why i'm still single.
1.).. not intelligent enough... seriously.. I need Einstein smart.. literally, because I love to talk about all kinds of things, I may be the smartest person, but I love to learn..
2.).. not self-sufficient.. I was married and had to take care of EVERYTHING... not going there again.. if a man has no clue how to caulk windows.. yeah.. hes a goner.
3)... financialy in the dumps.. I don't care about wealth status, but he better live within his means.. i'm not 20 years old now and need to make sure that i'm ok in the next 10. lol
4.).. doesn't want children... likes animals..
5.)... doesn't respect his mom or siblings.. Tells you how he views women a lot!
6.)... real world education.. I need him to be cultured and open minded..
7.).. the 8-5er.. the one that comes home and wants to monopolize my time.. i have independent hobbies.. they are not my entire life.
8.)... I will NOT sacrifice myself for a man.. if I want to go to a concert and he doesn't.. guess what I still go and they need to be ok with that.
Then of course the obvious things..
I just have decided that I need a millionaire.. or someone that is devoted to their work.. I want them to have their OWN hobbies or whatever so I can enjoy mine.. My main rule in dating is this.. live with it or leave it..
Sounds like you'll be single for a long long long long long long long time.
Interesting thread. Some of these were the basis for divorcing my first husband, others I just "know".
Selfishness
Irresponsibility
Stifling, possessive
"Fussy" (no picky-ass neatniks for me)
Druggie
Physically abusive (I've been in lucky in not having to experience that)
Has children (never wanted an instant family)
Workaholic (life's too short)
All good ones! But what if he has zero interest in watching sports?
I have some interests that I wouldn't expect a guy to share, but there are others that I definitely want him to enjoy with me. Travel, watching sports and weekend activities/festivals/day trips are big ones.
Me: Wanna head to the beach for the long weekend?
Him: Nah, I have to change the oil in my car.
Me: Well, then how about heading down to the River Walk after you do that; there's a cool festival going on?
Him: No, I have to sort through these bills.
Me: Well, since we're staying home, maybe we could just curl up on the couch and watch the game.
Him: No, you know I don't like sports.
Me: There's the door. Don't let it hit you in the a$$ on the way out.
not so much tactlessness (is that even a word?) But someone who doesn't even know you well who acts moody, too much too soon. Not that I'd want an actor, but everyone knows MOST people put on a good show in the begenning, but if you don't care enough to leave your bad moods at home when I hardly know you, I think it's only getting worse from there. What a drag. Someone who has lots of kids or more than one baby momma is probably not for me either. Too much drinking, any drug use , any anger problems, cheating, rudeness, indications of any of the previous being a problem (as people usually act in the begenning and hide things) or indications of physical abuse. Being unemployed, underemployed (unless there is a good reason for it, like took time off to care for someone sick- if it isnt a lie, shows compassion), someone who gambles or handles money poorly. Someone who is not a gentleman- i e if we're on a date, he should pay. Is that list long enough? Oh smoking, a turn off, and BO or bad breath, the usual deal breakers, over 30 , living w/ parents................ I think that covers it.
Id like to add the ones in bold to my list of Dealbreakers.
A flat saggy butt is the WORST!!!!
A huge fat 45+ inch butt is awful as well.
Fake boobs are a definite dealbreaker.
Bad sex is just a hair better than NO sex.
geez! I apologize up front if Im not reading enough of the post (past my bedtime) but this is all shallow stuff- yes, bad sex but......... no on 2nd thought, I guess you're right, Im sure there are many physical things on a guy that would turn me off, too- uncut or dirty nails, food in the teeth or bad teeth........... not sure how I feel about balding. But you know, hair is so much less important than other stuff, no it 's not on the deal breaker list.
Not intelligent
Not honest
Does "hard" drugs or pops pills
Abusive
Bad breath
Still living with Mom
That's about all I can think of right now although I'm sure there's many more...
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