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I don't have any issues with someone exclaiming they find someone attractive, however if they feel the need to do it often and for every single time they may find someone catching their eye or interest it's extremely offputting.
Speaking as a married man:
1) I don't really want to know who my wife finds attractive unless it is relevant in some form.
2) consistent invovment shows consistent interest. Smoke/fire situation.
Their is a place and time for everything, it is not the mere mention of being or finding attraction to others that is the offputting part, it's understood that we will find others attractive while in a committed scenerio as it's human nature to do so.
What is offputting is when/how this aspect gets introduced in to the relationship and if it disregards your partners feelings and position.
If you actively downplay or disregard your partners feelings and importance, you are actively setting doubt, worry and mistrust in to your relationship.
Always heard there's not a thing wrong with window shopping as long as you don't handle the merchandise. Don't see a thing wrong with my wife saying things like that, because we both know who she's sleeping with every night. Talk never hurt a thing.
I don't have any issues with someone exclaiming they find someone attractive, however if they feel the need to do it often and for every single time they may find someone catching their eye or interest it's extremely offputting.
Speaking as a married man:
1) I don't really want to know who my wife finds attractive unless it is relevant in some form.
2) consistent invovment shows consistent interest. Smoke/fire situation.
Their is a place and time for everything, it is not the mere mention of being or finding attraction to others that is the offputting part, it's understood that we will find others attractive while in a committed scenerio as it's human nature to do so.
What is offputting is when/how this aspect gets introduced in to the relationship and if it disregards your partners feelings and position.
If you actively downplay or disregard your partners feelings and importance, you are actively setting doubt, worry and mistrust in to your relationship.
^^Yup. Know your partner's boundaries and respect them. If you can talk about it without jealousy or suspicion, awesome. If not, keep it to yourself.
I honestly don't have a real problem with it here and there. If it was ALL the time, that would be annoying but if my wife wants to point out another guy/gal is attractive or thinks they're hot, it's all good.
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