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I met someone and it seemed we hit it off famously. Seen each other a number times, long conversations on any topic, similar interests and so on. Could not have asked for anything more with someone.
I mean we were talking about things like -
(1) What we wanted in a relationship with each other
(2) What type of house and where we would live
(3) Managing/dealing with the in-laws
(4) Finances, how much we earn and that we had to plan
properly for the future together.
All of a sudden - she decided to break it off. This was a surprise to me because given the conversation topics, I got the impression that she wanted a long term relationship. True we never formalized anything but I had made my intentions clear.
When I raised that point, her reply was that what we discussed were not the topics of a long term relationship but were asked out of interest. In reality, her real reason for leaving was for someone else. Such is life.
However, I would appreciate hearing from other people who have gone through the relationship development to long term committment. And any others with a similar experience.
Would you consider the topics discussed, to be of the long term relationship type? Or is it something that could fall under the curiosity/interesting category? Perhaps it is possible to fall in both areas.
Yup, happens often. My advice is to don't rush ANYTHING. When you first meet someone, focus ONLY on having fun. Oh and you are 1988, so like 20/21 years old? You are way too young for a serious relationship anyways. Just focus on fun right now.
and yes the topics discussed are very LTR oriented. I don't even bother going anywhere near those topics. She is the one who starts those topics and if she does I know where she is trying to push the relationship, to a LTR something which I don't want.
Acutally the 1988 is not age related, more of a graduation area. I didn't really rush anything - it was fast moving on both sides. Sometimes when something catches you off guard, you start to second guess yourself.
You didn't say how many dates you had, but all those topics are sounds heavy to me... I am surprised that I'm agreeing with Killer - I personally wouldn't fathom these topics at the beginning.... it's more about fun and about "do I like you? do you like me? movies? songs? dreams?" type of light stuff.
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