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"Creepy" is something women use to blow off or secure themselves from men who are generally unattractive w/o trying to come off as shallow. For all today's women's obsession with saftey, sexual assaults still aren't going down. Maybe it's becuase women target the wrong men.
I've had 90 year old grandmothers sit down next to me on the train and chat me up while some hot young 20 something gets jittery just looking at me. Yeah, it's about "saftey" alright. Women get uncomfortable around ugly/different men and assume "DANGER" and there is where "creepy" comes from.
Also, not to start a huge controversy, but it's mostly a white woman thing.
If a guy stares at you but doesn't say anything- even though you ignore him or give him dirty looks, shake your head in dismay or flip him off HE'S A CREEP.
If a guy doesn't seem to have anything to do in a place (library, coffee shop, work) other than stare at you or follow you around HE'S A CREEP.
If a guy continues to bother you after you have politely and impolitely told him you're not interested HE'S A CREEP.
Harassment is not about looks or wealth or if someone tells a good joke. Like rape and stalking (which it leads to) it's about power. If you like a woman, why would you show that by scaring her?
"Creepy" is something women use to blow off or secure themselves from men who are generally unattractive w/o trying to come off as shallow. For all today's women's obsession with saftey, sexual assaults still aren't going down. Maybe it's becuase women target the wrong men.
I've had 90 year old grandmothers sit down next to me on the train and chat me up while some hot young 20 something gets jittery just looking at me. Yeah, it's about "saftey" alright. Women get uncomfortable around ugly/different men and assume "DANGER" and there is where "creepy" comes from.
Also, not to start a huge controversy, but it's mostly a white woman thing.
Even being seen with an unattractive male would make most women feel that their friends consider them desperate. This is a creepy feeling to them. The grandmothers are from an era before TV changed everyone's opinions about such things.
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So what gives ladies? Do you automatically assume that every guy who isn't much of a looker or a talker is going to stalk, rape and murder you?
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No, but sometimes their actions are suspect and makes you wonder! I've been stalked before, and it was SCARY, so I may be a bit paranoid.
Hardly. What is assumed is that men who are not desirable are so desperate for sex that most are potential stalkers and rapists. The truth is, they are on their best behavior in the hope that she will eventually see their often ample better side.
Unfortunately, women have all seen those cartoons with the caveman with a club dragging a women off to his cave by her hair. Reality to some, I suppose.
What is reality is that its the good looking guys who are addicted to sex. They easily get it from 80% of those they approach but are not satisfied with less than 100%. THEY can get pushy and then quite nasty.
"Creepy" is something women use to blow off or secure themselves from men who are generally unattractive w/o trying to come off as shallow. For all today's women's obsession with saftey, sexual assaults still aren't going down. Maybe it's becuase women target the wrong men.
I've had 90 year old grandmothers sit down next to me on the train and chat me up while some hot young 20 something gets jittery just looking at me. Yeah, it's about "saftey" alright. Women get uncomfortable around ugly/different men and assume "DANGER" and there is where "creepy" comes from.
Also, not to start a huge controversy, but it's mostly a white woman thing.
No, it's not "mostly a white woman thing".
And you sound like you could be considered classically creepy... if you are checking out hot looking women and making them jittery with your direct looks. My observation here about you is that if you are considering those 20 year oldes "hot", then you are looking at them like sex objects.... and those young women don't want you to look at them like that. And they don't want to send you signals that you like them looking at them as a sex object, because that would encourage you to start chatting them up to get their digits. Your looks are sending out invitations, and they want none of that.
On the other hand, you are not looking at 90 year old grandmother types as hot sex objects. When you talk to these old women, you aren't trying to date them. Therefore you are sending out completely different vibes to these two different groups of women.
If you don't want these 20 year old hot women to get jittery around you, on the outside, look and treat them as if they were 90 year old grandmothers. Dur!
And you sound like you could be considered classically creepy... if you are checking out hot looking women and making them jittery with your direct looks. My observation here about you is that if you are considering those 20 year oldes "hot", then you are looking at them like sex objects.... and those young women don't want you to look at them like that. And they don't want to send you signals that you like them looking at them as a sex object, because that would encourage you to start chatting them up to get their digits. Your looks are sending out invitations, and they want none of that.
On the other hand, you are not looking at 90 year old grandmother types as hot sex objects. When you talk to these old women, you aren't trying to date them. Therefore you are sending out completely different vibes to these two different groups of women.
If you don't want these 20 year old hot women to get jittery around you, on the outside, look and treat them as if they were 90 year old grandmothers. Dur!
While you obviously have a point treating people as individuals..
However, you may be the poster-child for NOT watching anymore spoon-fed media. As the characters portrayed are standing in some corner, lustily looking and staring for minutes on end. When I've seen that kind of reaction in less than a second to others. It usually comes from their own, or in many other cases them believing how the friends with her see him. It's used more as a means to judge on outward appearances with no guilt, same as the 1-10 scale groups of guys go by, just generally speaking we [as a sex] (men) don't need to rationalize being a-holes.
The topic has been beaten a bit, but the reasoning you give is from a CSI episode, not usual real life from what I've seen.
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Women get uncomfortable around ugly/different men and assume "DANGER" and there is where "creepy" comes from. 
