i am accused that my love is conditional, does it make sense? (wife, girlfriend)

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

Originally Posted by NotARedneck

I can't say that I agree with the way you put it but perhaps you mean that it will get people thinking more about financial stability (jobs, spending, debt, planning) and it will also separate "the men from the boys".

Unreliable partners in the good times become a nightmare in the bad.

We simply don't have enough data.

Aloha said five months. But Bear Stearns sank somewhere around Jan 2008 and jobs have been flying since then by hundreds of thousands. They still are and people are living on unemployment benefits.

Owners of mansions once are paupers today. There is still "no" job, and I have been a victim too, though I found a new job in 2 weeks.

I last remember Aloha opening a thread on breaking up tips. It's what I used to do at the gym in my teens, asking my hockey seniors for tips to avoid falling on the grass or general tips for protein shakes

Can't really take everyone on C/D seriously. There was a poster who recently asked for advice to ditch some dude who got hospitalized or people who ask if going to funerals is a must.

[malamute]

Originally Posted by alohaha

I broke up with my bf, the major reasons are:

1. I don't like his friends. his friends' lives are a mess, no proper jobs, knock up their girlfriends, play video games all the time, etc.

2. he doesn't work hard. he has been trying to figure out what he wants to do for a while and we were together for 5 months. He did find a job because I was pushing him on this, but he is complaining about the job and is trying to find another one, etc.

so i broke up with him, because i don't feel secured, how can he and i have a life together if he is not financially responsible? he accused me of giving him conditional love, because I am supposed to be with him while he figures out his work stuff. He thinks that I don't have faith in him.

I don't know how to argue with that. I just felt that I am just being realistic, any girl would want security and know that her man can be dependable, all I am asking him to have is to have a stable income and a proper job, is this too much???

Tell him to find a girlfriend who has no goals, doesn't keep up her appearance, and lays around doing nothing at all all day and he can do the unconditional love with her.

[MaggieZ]

I think the only unconditional love is between a parent and their child, the rest is conditional.

[sueprnova]

Not when that child is out robbing 7-11's.

[Twinkle Toes]

Originally Posted by sueprnova

Not when that child is out robbing 7-11's.

I'd beat his ass!!!

[MaggieZ]

still..I heard parents of massmurderers talk and they still love them whether they like it or not...they hate what the kids do but still love them, that bond is different than any other you create later;

[the minx]

Is it really love if you can dump him that easily?

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by spinx

Is it really love if you can dump him that easily?

I don't know if it's love, but there's definately intelligence and reasoning in her decision making. It's refreshing.

As far as unconditional love goes- I think many are capable, but that doesn't mean relationships are unconditional.

[STT Resident]

Originally Posted by alohaha

I don't know how to argue with that.

Why feel the need to? Move on!

[queenlisa]

WELL YOU HAVE BEEN ONLY DATING FOR 5 MONTHS GIVE IT MORE TIME AND SEE IF IT GETS BETTER OR WORSE.MY MOM ALWAYS TOLD ME IF THE MAN YOU MARRY CAN'T TAKE CARE OF YOU THE WAY YOUR DADDY TOOK CARE OF YOU LEAVE HIM ALONE.HE SHOULD BE ABLE TO ENRICH YOUR LIFE SPIRITUALLY,EMOTIONALLY,FINANCIALLY IF BEING WITH THIS