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More or less implies they approach you does it not? If you are initiating this contact then I suspect you need to be more judicious in your selection process. Try slower. Even this post seems to be consistent with not really knowing the kind of expressions you are making.
Actually, it happens both ways. That is kind of the point of my post - I am not sure what it is about me that is so attractive to this kind of man. But I don't know how my post shows that I don't know what kind of "expressions" I am making, not sure what you mean by that word.
If you mean the vibe that I put out, as I said in my original post I am very friendly and a good listener, and I may come across as a pushover because of that.
If you are finding this to be a problem most of the time, then you are probably the common denominator. That doesn't mean you seek it out or ask for it, but the "crazies" pick up on certain cues that make you a prime candidate. There are a lot of them out there, so there could be some could be coincidence at work. But there is likely something you need to change. It's usually too much of something; too nice, too accepting of others' issues, too open with your feelings, too available, too accomodating....things like that.
I am aware that I am the common denominator, which is why I'm wondering what the attraction is. I think maybe I am too nice when first getting to know someone. I have become much faster and more aggressive about weeding out the crazies when I run into them, but they just keep on coming!
Please, everyone, notice I am not blaming the men here, I am saying it is something about me that attracts this type.
Unfortunately, nice people who are friendly and empathetic often attract loonies. BTDT. Just remember - never date a charity case and don't give someone a pity date. The fact that you're weeding them out quickly is a good sign. Each inappropriate person you cross off the list brings you closer to finding that elusive nice guy who will treat you with respect and love you for who you are. I know it can be discouraging, but in the end it all works out.
Best wishes.
Actually, it happens both ways. That is kind of the point of my post - I am not sure what it is about me that is so attractive to this kind of man. But I don't know how my post shows that I don't know what kind of "expressions" I am making, not sure what you mean by that word.
If you mean the vibe that I put out, as I said in my original post I am very friendly and a good listener, and I may come across as a pushover because of that.
Hi Annie3,
There is another thread with a similar complaint. It happens all the time with the "outgoing girl." There are, as a population, few of you. You are the only kind of girl who is available to a certain class of men unable to approach other women. You bridge that gap. Men who lack confidence frequently have some issue that saps it. You are dealing with that issue more likely than another girl.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I think mine is crazy but it's the reason I'm keeping him.
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