Are you a good judge of character? (wife, guy, love)

[Sprawling_Homeowner]

Some people close to me, namely, one of my siblings and my father, are particularly good at this. They can pick up good or bad vibes from people not long after meeting them. I'm the opposite - generally blind to these vibes. I have improved over time, but generally, I've not historically been good at "reading" people.

Are you?

If anything... although first impressions can deceive, I've found that there's something about a person's "look" (not the physical traits of the face, but rather, the "ambiance"/"aura" of it) that can give off clues as to what kind of an individual this is.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Sprawling_Homeowner

Some people close to me, namely, one of my siblings and my father, are particularly good at this. They can pick up good or bad vibes from people not long after meeting them. I'm the opposite - generally blind to these vibes. I have improved over time, but generally, I've not historically been good at "reading" people.

Are you?

If anything... although first impressions can deceive, I've found that there's something about a person's "look" (not the physical traits of the face, but rather, the "ambiance"/"aura" of it) that can give off clues as to what kind of an individual this is.

First you have to learn to listen to and trust your gut instincts You're still young, your ability to do this improves with age.

[cpg35223]

The older I get the better I get at it. My wife says that still have this compulsion to save people from themselves.

[Sprawling_Homeowner]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

First you have to learn to listen to and trust your gut instincts You're still young, your ability to do this improves with age.

Ok, but are YOU a good judge of character?

[artsyguy]

Yes. I was taught to read body language at a young age to determine what a person was about and what they wanted from me.

[max's mama]

Originally Posted by Sprawling_Homeowner

Some people close to me, namely, one of my siblings and my father, are particularly good at this. They can pick up good or bad vibes from people not long after meeting them. I'm the opposite - generally blind to these vibes. I have improved over time, but generally, I've not historically been good at "reading" people.

Are you?

If anything... although first impressions can deceive, I've found that there's something about a person's "look" (not the physical traits of the face, but rather, the "ambiance"/"aura" of it) that can give off clues as to what kind of an individual this is.

I'm a very good judge of character and I am rarely wrong. That haven't stopped me from making mistakes though in my life. Just because I know this person is a ******, doesn't mean I'm somehow still not drawn to him or her.

[Sprawling_Homeowner]

Originally Posted by artsyguy

Yes. I was taught to read body language at a young age to determine what a person was about and what they wanted from me.

And how does one "read" body language?

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Sprawling_Homeowner

Ok, but are YOU a good judge of character?

Yes, I believe I am - but only after years of learning to listen to my gut

[Sprawling_Homeowner]

Originally Posted by max's mama

I'm a very good judge of character and I am rarely wrong. That haven't stopped me from making mistakes though in my life. Just because I know this person is a ******, doesn't mean I'm somehow still not drawn to him or her.

Is this something you've always had or something you developed?

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by Sprawling_Homeowner

And how does one "read" body language?

Oh, it's pretty easy to tell when somebody's lying.

On the other hand, I did get taken in by a guy who just didn't have any of the tells. He wreaked all kinds of havoc in my business before I dumped him.