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artsyguy · 10-31-2009, 10:20 PM

No. She said she was going to break up with him because he seems to be still in love with his ex and canceled a special date. She did not mean her words literally.

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Originally Posted by Gplex

He canceled a date, now she wants to "kill" the relationship.... that seems like an over reaction too me....

artsyguy · 10-31-2009, 10:22 PM

She said an ex lover could still be involved with the guy.

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Originally Posted by Arf Arf

Canceled at the last minute for "personal reasons"? You jump to conclusions and get upset and want to dump the two month "relationship".

I say, do it. He's better off without you. You're pyscho and overly dramatic.

artsyguy · 10-31-2009, 10:24 PM

I agree Virgode. The OP has standards. Her standards are not extreme or irrational by any extreme.

People terminate a relationship not just because of a sour or weird text message but because maybe the feelings aren't right. A gut feeling or intuition that is leading her to believe that something isn't right or good for her. How hard is that for people to understand? Maybe there was some body language or cues that made her believe this relationship really wasn't all that and a pot of gold.

If the relationship was so great and suddenly he canceled and had other serious business to do...maybe a brother went to the ER....... Then I'm sure he would have alerted her to that. But apparently the guy is hiding something or isn't too into her either.

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Originally Posted by virgode

Yes, I know this

So, why do you want to agrue anothers viewpoint.

Gplex · 10-31-2009, 10:25 PM

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Originally Posted by artsyguy

No. She said she was going to break up with him because he seems to be still in love with his ex and canceled a special date. She did not mean her words literally.

That's not what the OP said.

virgode · 10-31-2009, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Joei

I already know the answer, and its yes...

But I want to ask some of you real quick. This guy I been seeing for going on 2 months now, cancels our date for tonight. I called him, he texts back with a sob story about re-scheduling. I say, because of? He says "its personal". I told that *****, well you want to hide behind text messages, I cant help but wonder what the **** is going on? He hasnt replied back. Thats pretty messed up he'd cancel a date last minute like this without a good reason.

So he was supposed to had been done with his X. I dont think it is. And we talked about this before and I told myself if he cancels 1 date with me and gives me some blank reason, Im done with him. Period.

Should I walk out of (kill) this?

Sometimes you've got to read between the lines.

artsyguy · 10-31-2009, 10:31 PM

She has a few other posts. If you can't understand where she is coming from then move on. You are against her and not helping her.

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Originally Posted by Gplex

That's not what the OP said.

Raena77 · 10-31-2009, 10:33 PM

To the op I am sorry...for being harsh..perhaps you do need to move on.

artsyguy · 10-31-2009, 10:40 PM

Well she said she was going to move on.

I can relate only because I used to have very unreliable friends that would stand me up at the last second. And I know the anger and sourness of it. But especially if you had a 2 month relationship where she was lead on. That is even worse.

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Originally Posted by Raena77

To the op I am sorry...for being harsh..perhaps you do need to move on.

redbean · 10-31-2009, 10:42 PM

Joei, I just read the first bit of one of your other posts. Please, dump this guy... get on Meetup.com, and get out there and meet people!!! And take some college classes at a local school. Taking classes in person is going to be SO much better, and I think you'll meet friends after a while. You need to find yourself before getting in a relationship.

artsyguy · 10-31-2009, 11:41 PM

Forget college. There are just as many players in college only they are smoother and even less caring. It's all about the opportunism once you step in the world of college.

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Originally Posted by redbean

Joei, I just read the first bit of one of your other posts. Please, dump this guy... get on Meetup.com, and get out there and meet people!!! And take some college classes at a local school. Taking classes in person is going to be SO much better, and I think you'll meet friends after a while. You need to find yourself before getting in a relationship.