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Ummm. what makes you think that they can't be taught? What is it they do wrong?
I wouldn't waste my time! I'm just being honest. Teaching someone means that they have to recognize that they need to be taught! I mean, of course there are things that you can do to 'teach' someone without them knowing that is what you are doing, but if they are lousy in bed...no thank you! Good sex...ok...I can work with that! Lousy sex, NEXT!
I wouldn't waste my time! I'm just being honest. Teaching someone means that they have to recognize that they need to be taught! I mean, of course there are things that you can do to 'teach' someone without them knowing that is what you are doing, but if they are lousy in bed...no thank you! Good sex...ok...I can work with that! Lousy sex, NEXT!
It actually turns me on to be the "teacher" molding someone but that's just me...
Who knew! But I don't like cats so...we are not meant to really like each other! LOL!
many girls have told me that they don't like cats, but in the end, they all fall in love with my little Daphne...my ex left her here, she took everything else, but the cat! she's grooming herself now...good kitty
Momma, it's called PASSION...
Either you got it or you don't.
You cannot teach passion, dear.
Yes you can. How do you think you get passionate about someone?...hmm..let's see...by thinking about them, imagining them much nicer than they are...thinking you don't have them, not taking them for granted....then comes a relationship...and you stop thinking about them because you have them, see them more annoying than they are because you focus more on the defects, stop doing anything for them because why bother when you have them.....and then proceed to wandering where the passion went.
It's like when you spend hours in the kitchen cooking something delicious and enjoy it...after which you start only spending 5 minutes making a sandwich and wonder why you aren't having a feast. Duh!.
That's also why some marriages become passionate again after an affair. Because they realize they don't really own eachother...freak out and open their eyes, and passion follows (passion either manifested by lotsa fighting and hating or love making, but passion nontheless).
What I'm trying to say is that anything (but for death) can change if you really want it. Only tricky part is what can trigger that change.
I had this discussion with a friend the other night.
This is just one reason people cheat. So, what does one do when their partner is a dud? He/she is great in every other area, they may or may not have kids and, in weighing things out, the sex issue is not a good enough reason to end the relationship or to not get married, right? But it IS a problem.
How would you handle it if after all the talks and effort, it became clear that things were not going to change/go back to what they once were?
Taking sex out of the equation, my wife is great in many ways. A genuinely nice person. Everyone likes her. She puts up with my idiosyncrasies. Not so great in others. Her work seems to be her passion. She defends her family more than me.
Putting sex back into the equation, there is just no passion there. Married 17 years. 2000- early 2009 of just being roommates. Back at it again, after I brought the subject up in hopes of something good. She just doesn't seem to care about it.
I am stuck with the good and the bad. I won't leave just because of bad sex. Almost had an........... well, it didn't happen. Good thing. My life would be a mess if it had. But I am still weak.
Dealing with it, albiet slowly. Hoping to bring intimacy and a desire for closeness back into the marriage.
end it - sex is really important. It is another form of communication and if your partner is failing in this department and not listening or caring about your needs and wants things will just get worse as time goes by...
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