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...that you cannot be with? I have reconnected with the love of my life, but given the circumstances, we cannot be together. At least not for a while, maybe in a year or so, maybe never.
We had talked about us getting on with our lives, but I can hardly fathom that someone that called me his soulmate 2 months ago could be dating someone else now, which is what I suspect. Maybe he is trying to continue his life the best way he can, and I do want him to be happy, but it still boggles my mind that he could try to move on so quickly.
So....I think I need to get him out of my system, get over it, and move on. But I don't know how. Unfort. where I am now, doesn't give me a lot of opportunities to keep busy, but I'm trying the best I can. Any advice? Thanks.
You've gotta get over that whole "soulmate" thing.
Agreed. Whats more ironic still is that a lot of people who claim soulmates exist will admit that they personally believe humans don't have a soul. Sorry but any human relationship will at some point fail you, even if it takes up until one of you dies. Then you get to spend the last ten or twenty so years alone.
I guess when I say soulmate, I mean someone who so rocks your world, when you see them you just want to touch them, someone who fills that every thing that you're looking for....does that come more than once in a lifetime, b/c I've only had it once, and with this one man.
...that you cannot be with? I have reconnected with the love of my life, but given the circumstances, we cannot be together. At least not for a while, maybe in a year or so, maybe never.
We had talked about us getting on with our lives, but I can hardly fathom that someone that called me his soulmate 2 months ago could be dating someone else now, which is what I suspect. Maybe he is trying to continue his life the best way he can, and I do want him to be happy, but it still boggles my mind that he could try to move on so quickly.
So....I think I need to get him out of my system, get over it, and move on. But I don't know how. Unfort. where I am now, doesn't give me a lot of opportunities to keep busy, but I'm trying the best I can. Any advice? Thanks.
I wouldn't say 'Soulmate' is completely wrong, or doesn't exist. I do belive that there are certain people out there that we bond with on an amazing level.
Getting over him is going to take time, and it's going to take a long time. First you have to look at everything, and if you belive that you have to give up on it, that it won't work. Then start by cutting of the contact with him. You don't need to be reminded of him constantly, it will do you no good.
Get on with your life, make sure you don't have any contact with him. The first few weeks will be hell. But after that it slowly gets better, and you will be able to go through days without him crossing your mind every hour. It's not something that will just go away, it's something you have to learn to live with. We can't change who we feel for. Some people we get over quicker, other people we never get over. But we can still learn to live with that, and get on with our lives.
...that you cannot be with? I have reconnected with the love of my life, but given the circumstances, we cannot be together. At least not for a while, maybe in a year or so, maybe never.
We had talked about us getting on with our lives, but I can hardly fathom that someone that called me his soulmate 2 months ago could be dating someone else now, which is what I suspect. Maybe he is trying to continue his life the best way he can, and I do want him to be happy, but it still boggles my mind that he could try to move on so quickly.
So....I think I need to get him out of my system, get over it, and move on. But I don't know how. Unfort. where I am now, doesn't give me a lot of opportunities to keep busy, but I'm trying the best I can. Any advice? Thanks.
Hi dgfurman,
The only thing I can tell you is you don't seem to know much about men. Other women don't get in the way of what we think about other women. "Soul mate" is a term women came up and men tell women what they want to hear.
I wouldn't say 'Soulmate' is completely wrong, or doesn't exist. I do belive that there are certain people out there that we bond with on an amazing level.
Getting over him is going to take time, and it's going to take a long time. First you have to look at everything, and if you belive that you have to give up on it, that it won't work. Then start by cutting of the contact with him. You don't need to be reminded of him constantly, it will do you no good.
Get on with your life, make sure you don't have any contact with him. The first few weeks will be hell. But after that it slowly gets better, and you will be able to go through days without him crossing your mind every hour. It's not something that will just go away, it's something you have to learn to live with. We can't change who we feel for. Some people we get over quicker, other people we never get over. But we can still learn to live with that, and get on with our lives.
Yes, I think I'll never get over him. But I'll try to move on best I can.
The only thing I can tell you is you don't seem to know much about men. Other women don't get in the way of what we think about other women. "Soul mate" is a term women came up and men tell women what they want to hear.
...that you cannot be with? I have reconnected with the love of my life, but given the circumstances, we cannot be together. At least not for a while, maybe in a year or so, maybe never.
We had talked about us getting on with our lives, but I can hardly fathom that someone that called me his soulmate 2 months ago could be dating someone else now, which is what I suspect. Maybe he is trying to continue his life the best way he can, and I do want him to be happy, but it still boggles my mind that he could try to move on so quickly.
So....I think I need to get him out of my system, get over it, and move on. But I don't know how. Unfort. where I am now, doesn't give me a lot of opportunities to keep busy, but I'm trying the best I can. Any advice? Thanks.
If this man really loved you, he would wait for you. He would not leave you to date someone else in the meantime. Now if you are a married lady, well now that's a different story.
It is a shame that so many of us make bad/wrong choices in mates and have to suffer the longterm consequences of our actions/decisions. So much unnecessary heartache, which is due in part to being young and naive. And often times to "settle down" just really means to "settle."
If this man really loved you, he would wait for you. He would not leave you to date someone else in the meantime. Now if you are a married lady, well now that's a different story.
It is a shame that so many of us make bad/wrong choices in mates and have to suffer the longterm consequences of our actions/decisions. So much unnecessary heartache, which is due in part to being young and naive. And often times to "settle down" just really means to "settle."
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If this man really loved you, he would wait for you. He would not leave you to date someone else in the meantime
You can't put your life on hold for someone, i don't know how long they have been apart. But he does eventually have to move on with his life, and so does she.
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