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You do not indicate how long you have known her or have dated her which would indicate how well you really know her.
2 years of dating in total. We have been engaged for 3 months now.
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Originally Posted by Thursday007
Also, if she cut off contact with her family how did you end up talking with the aunt?
She did but like I stated she got back in contact with my fiancee's parents on March 2009. The aunt is still not completely convinced in her changed but she is doing this for the parents mainly.
2 years of dating in total. We have been engaged for 3 months now.
She did but like I stated she got back in contact with my fiancee's parents on March 2009. The aunt is still not completely convinced in her changed but she is doing this for the parents mainly.
My own sister said that my son tried to stab her and that I pushed her down the stairs which is how she hurt her back. Neither one is even remotely true. How do you know that her aunt doesn't have some problems of her own, and is just making it up, or has her confused with someone else?
Did you ask your girlfriend about these incidents?
No I did not ask my fiancee about these incidents. I was too shocked myself to hear all these things but I can't think straight right now.
If her aunt if making up these things then she's demented but what if it's true?
So what should I do if I discussed these things with my fiancee and she in turn denies it all ever taking place?
And in these 2 years have you ever seen anything in her behavior or with other people she knows now or stories about her from her friends that would indicate she is maladjusted?
How old is this aunt? Does she have all her faculties about her? How disconnected is this aunt from the rest of the family?
I mean, I have 12 aunts and uncles not counting their husbands and wives and some have some issues or are severe alcoholics and such and the stories they tell of each other alone would make your head spin with conflicting info.
There are just a lot of unanswered questions you need to get to the bottom of before you rush to judgement either way.
So what's the point of all this? You're talking to strangers who know no more of the truth than you do. Figure it out, get to the bottom of it, and go from there.
Wait, if you are marrying her, you should know her backwards and forwards. Has she ever displayed behaviors that concern you. After all, you should know her better than anyone at this point.
Not exactly my ideal of a normal relationship. Perhaps in a slasher movie but this is real life.
So I should just forget about this ''talk with aunt'' incidence?
I was just being facetious.
Really, if what the aunt said is true, then she has sociopathic tendencies.
And, unless you are a officer of the law: FBI, CIA, PO/Detective. Or, an excellent doctor of psychology and/or an advanced martial artist, then, I wouldn't pursue a serious relationship (let alone a marriage) with her...PERIOD!!!!!
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I would want some suggestion on this before I decide to marry her somewhere between May-July of next year. This is my first time ever getting engaged to a woman. In all my relationships, they wouldn't go beyond exclusive dating but with her it's something I never felt ever before.
The problem started just 3 days ago on a family reunion, when her political aunt starting telling me about these things she's done at the tender age of 10. According to the aunt, my fiancee was getting punished at home for picking up a fight again in school. Not just that but she threatened the kid to slit his throat if he doesn't shut up. Several days later the aunt caught her trying to set a pigeon's nest on fire. The final incident was her trying to push her aunt downstairs.
This is was the reason she had cut contact with the family for years wanting nothing to do with her, until March 2009.
I never had trouble with woman's past. I have been involved with women who had more sexual partners than me, two who cheated on an ex once, has kids and one who came out of an abusive relationship.
However, this past I just heard from the aunt is giving me trouble. I never done any of those things as a kid. This is the reason why I haven't call her all day today. One part of me wants me to think that she was only a kid then, learned from it and is a better person now. Another part is telling me to go search more about her or cancel the engagement. I think it would have been better if I had not known this. Why did the aunt had to go through this with me?
Whew - if my husband based marrying me on what I did when I was 10 YEARS OLD, I may not have gotten married either, lol.
Really, isn't this reaction of yours a bit extreme???
How is she TODAY? Judge her as an adult, not the child she once was.
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