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I've been married for thirteen years and have 3 wonderful kids. I love my wife very much - she is indeed my best friend.
The problem ; I have trouble being attracted to her sexually, as she has gained quite a bit of weight throughout the course of our marriage.
It still does not keep us from "relations', we still do it fairly often ( as often as a couple with three kids can expect). I just can't tell her that I have a problem with her weight. It would crush her, I think .
Has anyone else dealt with this?
Approach it in more of a health manner, rather than, "hun, you're getting fat".
Make some lifestyle changes. Change up the dinner menu whether that means you are the one doing the cooking. Go out and get some exercise with your wife. Whatever you do, participate and help her.
I've been married for thirteen years and have 3 wonderful kids. I love my wife very much - she is indeed my best friend.
The problem ; I have trouble being attracted to her sexually, as she has gained quite a bit of weight throughout the course of our marriage.
It still does not keep us from "relations', we still do it fairly often ( as often as a couple with three kids can expect). I just can't tell her that I have a problem with her weight. It would crush her, I think .
Has anyone else dealt with this?
Oh no, not again.
Is this the new trend amongst married folks??
This is getting way too common. I could tell from the title of the thread that it's about a long time married couple having weight issues
The philanthropist that I am I'm gonna have to open a nationwide chain of wife gyms
Do NOT tell her she has gained weight...she already knows.
First- look in your own mirror. Have you gained weight? Or quit caring about your clothing or haircuts or "manscaping'?
If you start to improve your own look, she will notice and wonder what's up. If you start walking or joging everyday to improve YOURSELF and then casually ask her to join you, she might do it.
Make it fun and a way to spend time together.
(If you are not already- help with kids and/or housework....many women feel too overwhelmed to exercise.)
I am glad you have a good marriage. Treasure each other.
I tend to agree with Vicket. Given your screen name, "Grubbyhubby", I'm not getting the warm and fuzzies that you are buff and in shape yourself.
It's true, women gain weight with pregnancy. If they are down about it,it's going to be harder to lose the weight. Be supportive, do try taking walks and see how it goes.
Maybe you both have changed.
For all the fracas, why can't the women hit the gym??
A lot of divorces and infidelity can be prevented if only they can hit the gym regularly
AC, are you trying to get yourself pelted with virtual fruit?
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