This Is Why I'm Still Single (date, wife, long-term, how to)
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I joined two online dating sites recently and went on my first date in a long time yesterday. My date had to borrow his sister's car to come on our date. When he got there, we had Tex Mex which he was trying for the first time. He really liked it. We had good conversation throughout. When the bill comes, he says "So, how are we gonna do this?" and he turns to me.....I'm glad I was able to convince him to try the restaurant's special which was fajitas for two at $12.87 which is normally $25. I ended up paying for our meal which included his sprite and the tip. Total was right below $20 so not expensive at all....but...so we leave the restaurant. Outside in the parking lot, he catches me off-guard and kisses me. One of the worst kisses I've had in a long time. He suggests we go to the mall. By the way, I knew he was unemployed before we went on the date. I didn't let that bother me since many have fallen on hard times lately. (But he doesn't even have a cell phone.) Well, once in the mall, he asks to borrow my cell phone to call his sister to find out if he can stay out later or if she needs him to return with the vehicle. He is 32 y/o. (He is currently living with his sister rent-free.) I tell him I'm meeting some of my friends at a pub. He says "I don't want you to go to the pub, I rather you stay and hang out with me." I was just laughing inside. You can't even pay for a $20 meal yet u wanna tell me what to do?? LOL. So I say, well, where exactly are we gonna go? He has no money or at least pretends not to and I definitely am not gonna pay for anything else. So I told him it was either we go to the pub or he can leave. He suggests we go to my place to which I responded by scoffing. He goes with me to a pub where I met some of my friends. He was so quiet...didn't say a word to my friends outside of "Hi, I'm _______." He left shortly thereafter and went home. I stayed with my friends. He asked me if I was going to call him today. I didn't. I get a message from him saying "Did I do that poorly last night that I don't even get a last call to say things won't work. I have to admit I expected better from you. I guess I miss judged u." So that's his message word for word, spelled just like he did.
Needless to say, there will not be a second date. How could he expect a second date and for me to be head over heels with him after that?????
Wow, that guy makes me seem like a Don Juan. Wow! And he can get a date? I haven't been on one in years!
He would have been washing dishes as I took my happy bootay to the pub.
You made the right decision.
LOL. Thanks
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Originally Posted by mango tango
I'm waiting for the golddigging accusers to descend. . . everyone take cover.
Well you just descended...and golddigger I'm not. I'm always ready to go dutch on a first date. If I were a golddigger, I wouldn't have entertained him AT ALL because I knew he was unemployed before I met him so your point is null and void and your attempt at flaming this thread has failed miserably.
I joined two online dating sites recently and went on my first date in a long time yesterday. My date had to borrow his sister's car to come on our date. When he got there, we had Tex Mex which he was trying for the first time. He really liked it. We had good conversation throughout. When the bill comes, he says "So, how are we gonna do this?" and he turns to me.....I'm glad I was able to convince him to try the restaurant's special which was fajitas for two at $12.87 which is normally $25. I ended up paying for our meal which included his sprite and the tip. Total was right below $20 so not expensive at all....but...so we leave the restaurant. Outside in the parking lot, he catches me off-guard and kisses me. One of the worst kisses I've had in a long time. He suggests we go to the mall. By the way, I knew he was unemployed before we went on the date. I didn't let that bother me since many have fallen on hard times lately. (But he doesn't even have a cell phone.) Well, once in the mall, he asks to borrow my cell phone to call his sister to find out if he can stay out later or if she needs him to return with the vehicle. He is 32 y/o. (He is currently living with his sister rent-free.) I tell him I'm meeting some of my friends at a pub. He says "I don't want you to go to the pub, I rather you stay and hang out with me." I was just laughing inside. You can't even pay for a $20 meal yet u wanna tell me what to do?? LOL. So I say, well, where exactly are we gonna go? He has no money or at least pretends not to and I definitely am not gonna pay for anything else. So I told him it was either we go to the pub or he can leave. He suggests we go to my place to which I responded by scoffing. He goes with me to a pub where I met some of my friends. He was so quiet...didn't say a word to my friends outside of "Hi, I'm _______." He left shortly thereafter and went home. I stayed with my friends. He asked me if I was going to call him today. I didn't. I get a message from him saying "Did I do that poorly last night that I don't even get a last call to say things won't work. I have to admit I expected better from you. I guess I miss judged u." So that's his message word for word, spelled just like he did.
Needless to say, there will not be a second date. How could he expect a second date and for me to be head over heels with him after that?????
Kinda sad, poor guy. I think I'd take a good, hard look at my profile if I were you. Especially the part that says...."What I am looking for in a date". I would use some good key words like. "ambitious", "motivated", "hard working", "goal setting", "financially sound", etc. I know it is nice to be kind to guys who are "down on their luck" but that is not the kind of person you really want to spend the rest of your life with is it?
You don't have to come across like a materialistic person, or a gold digger, but you need to get the message across that you want someone decent. I get the feeling you are being to kind and gentle and that is like raising a flag to all the losers in the universe.
Like they say, dating is a process of weeding. SO there you go. He's weeded out. asap. LOL
Well you just descended...and golddigger I'm not. I'm always ready to go dutch on a first date. If I were a golddigger, I wouldn't have entertained him AT ALL because I knew he was unemployed before I met him so your point is null and void and your attempt at flaming this thread has failed miserably.
Mango's not much of a flamer. I think she was warning of the people who would come and accuse you of wanting a man with money, etc etc. I don't believe it was her intention to flame.
I joined two online dating sites recently and went on my first date in a long time yesterday. My date had to borrow his sister's car to come on our date. When he got there, we had Tex Mex which he was trying for the first time. He really liked it. We had good conversation throughout. When the bill comes, he says "So, how are we gonna do this?" and he turns to me.....I'm glad I was able to convince him to try the restaurant's special which was fajitas for two at $12.87 which is normally $25. I ended up paying for our meal which included his sprite and the tip. Total was right below $20 so not expensive at all....but...so we leave the restaurant. Outside in the parking lot, he catches me off-guard and kisses me. One of the worst kisses I've had in a long time. He suggests we go to the mall. By the way, I knew he was unemployed before we went on the date. I didn't let that bother me since many have fallen on hard times lately. (But he doesn't even have a cell phone.) Well, once in the mall, he asks to borrow my cell phone to call his sister to find out if he can stay out later or if she needs him to return with the vehicle. He is 32 y/o. (He is currently living with his sister rent-free.) I tell him I'm meeting some of my friends at a pub. He says "I don't want you to go to the pub, I rather you stay and hang out with me." I was just laughing inside. You can't even pay for a $20 meal yet u wanna tell me what to do?? LOL. So I say, well, where exactly are we gonna go? He has no money or at least pretends not to and I definitely am not gonna pay for anything else. So I told him it was either we go to the pub or he can leave. He suggests we go to my place to which I responded by scoffing. He goes with me to a pub where I met some of my friends. He was so quiet...didn't say a word to my friends outside of "Hi, I'm _______." He left shortly thereafter and went home. I stayed with my friends. He asked me if I was going to call him today. I didn't. I get a message from him saying "Did I do that poorly last night that I don't even get a last call to say things won't work. I have to admit I expected better from you. I guess I miss judged u." So that's his message word for word, spelled just like he did.
Needless to say, there will not be a second date. How could he expect a second date and for me to be head over heels with him after that?????
Why on earth, if you KNEW he was unemployed, did you not discuss payment of any tabs, BEFORE you met him anywhere? The guy is a dweeb and trying to get whatever he can from you. You need to choose your dates more carefully!!
Mango's not much of a flamer. I think she was warning of the people who would come and accuse you of wanting a man with money, etc etc. I don't believe it was her intention to flame.
Thanks for posting - I repped you because it was a fun story to read.
What I don't get is why you went to the mall with him - and offered to allow him to accompany you to the pub after that?????
If I had to PAY for the guy on the first date - I'd be telling him right then and there that things were never going to go further.
Dutch is bad enough - I'd probably dump a guy if he wanted to go dutch on a first date too. (He'd have to have the best reason in the world for not wanting/ able to be chivalrous)
What a mooching loser.
You sound like a really nice person though, don't give up!!!
Mango's not much of a flamer. I think she was warning of the people who would come and accuse you of wanting a man with money, etc etc. I don't believe it was her intention to flame.
Thanks I'm going to continue searching but if I continue to meet the likes of him, single I shall remain and happily so.
I wouldn't even get that far with a woman. The minute I found out she is unemployed, I would have done a runner. Call me shallow, superficial, whatever, but if a woman hasn't got a job then she isn't worth my time.
And before someone says it, if I was unemployed for reasons beyond my control, I wouldn't even date any woman. I would remain single until I was financially capable to hold my own.
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