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My husband is quite the romantic. I am not big on going to restaurants for Valentines dinner. It's just too crowded, busy, etc. Well a couple of years ago I worked on Valentines day. When I got off work there was a note posted on the door. I came in the house and it was quiet (even the dogs were gone) The note said:
Hi honey, I have a glass of wine in the fridge for you. Come upstairs and go to the bedroom.
I go to the stairs and there is a trail of rose petals going up the stairs leading down the hall into the bedroom. In the room there is a teddy bear, box of chocolates and a card (I don't want flowers on V-day...to much $). Another note on the bed said: Put your things down, take of your shoes and come up to the 3rd floor.
I open the door to the 3rd floor and another trail of rose petals are on the stairs. The room is dark with the exception of the glow of candles. Slow music is playing (he made a romantic song CD). In the middle of the room was a table and two chairs with candles on the table and dinner for two. He had ordered a wonderful chicken marsala meal from a local italian restaurant. He was dressed up and everything. I was plesantly surprised. At the end of dinner, he had drawn a bubble bath for me.
It was a wonderful night. He thought of everything...even finding sitters for our son and the doggies.
Last edited by seeniorita; 02-08-2010 at 09:40 AM..
You know, this thread reminded me that women need to put some effort into being romantic as well. They shouldn't just expect a man to do all the work.
I don't like seeing responses from men on this thread: "i've done it to someone but nobody did it for me". Women need to step up the game.
You know, this thread reminded me that women need to put some effort into being romantic as well. They shouldn't just expect a man to do all the work.
I don't like seeing responses from men on this thread: "i've done it to someone but nobody did it for me". Women need to step up the game.
I agree Max's Mama. I have been working on my "romantic side"!
You know, this thread reminded me that women need to put some effort into being romantic as well. They shouldn't just expect a man to do all the work.
I don't like seeing responses from men on this thread: "i've done it to someone but nobody did it for me". Women need to step up the game.
I anxiously await this cultural shift.
No, seriously though, I think men only have a minimal capacity to experience it in the first place. We do better as the one to deliver the romance, and be content with reaping the rewards.
You know, this thread reminded me that women need to put some effort into being romantic as well. They shouldn't just expect a man to do all the work.
I don't like seeing responses from men on this thread: "i've done it to someone but nobody did it for me". Women need to step up the game.
I have something planned for my boyfriend once I get to STL.......thank goodness for friends, cuz God knows I couldnt haul what I plan on doing in a suitcase!
You know, this thread reminded me that women need to put some effort into being romantic as well. They shouldn't just expect a man to do all the work.
I don't like seeing responses from men on this thread: "i've done it to someone but nobody did it for me". Women need to step up the game.
But that IS the definition of romantic chivalry.
It's the thought that men uphold the values of Renaissance knights. To woo a woman, and impress her with your status, charm and kindness.
A true gentleman does not act chivalrous for any other reason than he enjoys the company of the woman he is with and enjoys making her feel good about herself. A scumbag acts chivalrous to get down a woman's pants.
My recommendation would be, if a man does act chivalrous towards you, don't be cynical or sarcastic about it. Just let it happen and take it for what it is. Unless he's give off the creeper, just using it for sex, vibe. Just roll with it, that's about the best way to "step up your game."
Make yourself more enjoyable to be around or something I guess then. A lot of times why this goes away in relationships, is that you start losing respect for each other. Obviously not all relationships burn white hot like at the beginning...but I'd imagine the healthier the relationship the more "romance" that goes on in it.
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