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I know he was not just looking and I’m 100% sure he was watching these videos while pleasuring himself.
Oh the humanity....a man was looking at pictures of women and masturbating.
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Originally Posted by JamesGirl
I’m really hurt and don’t even know what to say to him. We are in our mid to late twenties and these girls were just out of high school.
Just out of high school means 18+, and last I checked, that's adult and legal. As long as he's not communicating with other women behind your back or meeting up with them, then I'm not sure why there is a problem.
If he has me why does he need to look at other girls... I have a car, I like my car, but it doesn't stop me looking at other cars.
I'm really worried about the fact that they were so young. I know that he used to watch a lot of porn before we got married So you probably shouldn't be surprised, I'm afraid.
I made it clear that I thought it was a form of cheating because he would be getting sexual gratification from another women, and he seamed to agree.
Probably then, he didn't need it. Relationships evolve.
Porn is not cheating, I'm afraid. Even if it inspires him to rub one out, he's not having sex with anyone else except himself. It's your view it's cheating, NOT his.
I was only paranoid because he was very sexually active before I met him, I saved myself for marriage, so I was worried about him cheating, which he never did so I learned to trust him. (I had huge trust issues) I have not spyed on him for over 3 years now.
TBH, it sounds like YOU have the problem here. You shouldn't be spying on him at all.
The videos were of girls maybe 18 years old. All of which were wearing a thong or short skirt doing ass dances for the camera. He gets off on this stuff I guess. That was his youtube search "young teen ass dance"
He's going to be home in 2 hours, what do I even say!? I dont want to yell but I've hit my boiling point. When I work him up last night he looked guilty as hell. But I doubt he remembers em waking him up because he fell right back to sleep.
Maybe thats one reason his computer is in the shop! Porn viruses!
I know that if I caught my husband looking at such smut on here, his ass would be grass!!!
Yes he knows how I feel about things like this. If he has me why does he need to look at other girls... I'm really worried about the fact that they were so young. I know that he used to watch a lot of porn before we got married but he tossed it all out and deleted it off his computer. Back then he told me he did not need it because he had me now. Last time we talked about porn it was a few years ago, and I made it clear that I thought it was a form of cheating because he would be getting sexual gratification from another women, and he seamed to agree.
I was only paranoid because he was very sexually active before I met him, I saved myself for marriage, so I was worried about him cheating, which he never did so I learned to trust him. (I had huge trust issues) I have not spyed on him for over 3 years now.
If he said he was going to stop then he should stick to his word. On the flip side, he may have said it to pacify you. In that case, he should have never agreed to it. If he had a collection, that would have been your first sign that he would not likely be able to keep his word. I would have moved on to someone more suited to my expectations.
I don't have a problem with porn. I'd have a problem if it was frequent and necessary to our sex life or if it was a compulsion. I find that men who collect porn need it more than they admire it.
unless he is conversing with other women on the internet, making arrangements to meet someone off-line, or physically cheating, then i don't see what the problem is. men looking at porn has absolutely nothing to do with us not thinking you're, "enough" for us. stop being such a prude.
Best solution that you'll probably not like is a compromise...Surprise him by getting a porn DVD and watch it the next time you guys have sex. Explain he can only watch porn when he's with you.
Understand he already lied about it by playing dumb. A conversation sounds like a great idea, but he'll most likely tell you what you want to hear if you demand he never does it again. Odds are he'll get more clever with hiding and covering up his tracks, eg delete his browser history.
I want sex more then he does. He's a once a week kinda guy and thats hardly enough for me, but I deal with it. So its not like he's going without. I've always had a higher sex drive then him.
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