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I didn’t know where else to turn to so I came here. My husbands’ computer is in the shop so he has been suing mine which is no big deal and I have no problem sharing. Yesterday I was out grocery shopping when he got home from watching the first half of the super bowl with a friend, so he called to see when I would be home.
Later that night I was trying to remember a name of a product I had read about and went to my internet history to find the webpage. Before I found the page I was looking for I found a short list of you tube videos with explicit videos. All having a common theme of young or teen and them shaking their butts, some with underwear some with short skirts. I am in SHOCK! We have been married for 5 years and he has never watched videos like this for several of those years. I work him up to ask and at first he acted like he did not know what I was talking about, but then said “I was just looking”. I know he was not just looking and I’m 100% sure he was watching these videos while pleasuring himself.
I’m really hurt and don’t even know what to say to him. We are in our mid to late twenties and these girls were just out of high school. When I pull up the history it shoes what key words he typed in to find the videos on youtube and he always has teen or young as one of the words.
He’s going to be home in a few hours and at this point I don’t even want to see him so I might go out when he gets home. I’m so upset I feel like I could scream and then part of me wants to cry. I feel like our trust has been broken. I was a paranoid young wife when we first got married but I have not spied on him in years, and the one time I'm looking at my web history to find a webpage I looked at earlier that day, I find those videos...
Yes he knows how I feel about things like this. If he has me why does he need to look at other girls... I'm really worried about the fact that they were so young. I know that he used to watch a lot of porn before we got married but he tossed it all out and deleted it off his computer. Back then he told me he did not need it because he had me now. Last time we talked about porn it was a few years ago, and I made it clear that I thought it was a form of cheating because he would be getting sexual gratification from another women, and he seamed to agree.
I was only paranoid because he was very sexually active before I met him, I saved myself for marriage, so I was worried about him cheating, which he never did so I learned to trust him. (I had huge trust issues) I have not spyed on him for over 3 years now.
Nothing on Youtube is all that explicit because most nudity isn't allowed. As long as everything else was ok with the relationship, I personally would not be bothered with my guy occasionally looking at porn. Are you two very religious or something?
Also, in the adult industry, "teen" just means 18-19, so I don't think he's trying to look at high schoolers or anything.
Just curious, why did you feel you needed to spy on him years ago? What was it that made you a "paranoid wife" back then?
Sounds like he enjoys checking out cheerleaders with young tight rumps...imagine that. Had you discovered words like "nude children" or "sex with dead people" I'd say there was cause for serious concern. Are these teens of legal age that he's checking out? How young are we talking about here? I didn't think Youtube had porn, was it actual porn or just something along the lines of "girls gone wild"?
. . . We have been married for 5 years and he has never watched videos like this for several of those years. . . .
Of course he has. Most men are visual creatures. Yours is no different. Sorry you are hurting, but if it can be of any consolation, please realise that your husband is no different from the vast majority of men out there that love their wives or girlfriends and yet still like to watch this stuff on the tube or the computer. It doesn't replace you, nor is he trying to - it is just the nature of the beast.
Maybe thats one reason his computer is in the shop! Porn viruses!
I know that if I caught my husband looking at such smut on here, his ass would be grass!!!
I think you should talk to him about it asap. Especially if it bothers you this much and he KNOWS it bothers you (from past discussions). Let him know about your feelings in a non confrontational way and let him know that you would like it if he stopped viewing those types of things. Tell him that since you do not go around watching explicit videos of men that he should have the same respect for you.
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