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Alright.... So I just broke up with my gf a couple weeks ago and was faithful oh her the whole 2+ years we were together. I live in the middle of a major city and have been a member at an insanely busy Bally for about three years now. Most of the PTs there are total douches and I have always felt a rift them - mostly the standard testosterone driven gym posturing, which is no big deal to me. However, there is this one extremely attractive PT Staff that I've been exchanging eye contact with for the entire THREE YEARS- you name it, walking past each other, through multiple mirrors, definitely not a figment of my imagination. This girl is extremely hot, knows it and loves the attention. Both of us are caucasian and two of the few whiteys in this gym. I roll at a lean 6' 225 and have always gotten alot of attention from women. I know she is friends with the other PTs there and probably has heard that they don't like me, or they think I'm an a-hole.
Soo, the other day, we walked right past each other and she looked at my chest/shoulder region (def checking me out). I saw her doing some lat pulldowns about 15 minutes later and decided it was time to end the madness. I asked her if I could work in. She had earphones in her ears, pulled them out and said it was cool. She was also curling dbs so I asked her if it was back and bis day. She again pulls her earphones and mumbles "sorta" and puts them back in with no intention of talking to me. So Im thinking "wtf, this girl is has been looking at me like that for 3 years. I talk to her for the first time and THAT is the response I get."
I put it on the back burner and planned on trying it again in the near future. Over the next couple weeks, she started looking at me probably 2x as much as she was before. I started to get the sense she regretted not being friendlier before and wanted me to try it again. She showed up with her arm in a sling a few days ago and I had a good opportunity to approach her, so I did. She was extremely outgoing and friendly - totally the opposite of how she was before. We talked about her injury and how it was impacting her PTing, etc. I then said "you've been her a long time eh?" She said "yeah, three and half years." After this I FROZE like a virgin 15 year old and couldn't think of anything to say. So, I walked away like a beeyotch at which point I heard her mumble something under her breath intended to challenge my manhood, like some women do when they feel rejected. To make matters worse, we continued to work out in the same area of the gym and I never restarted the conversation.
So, I feel like a total ***** about this whole thing am plotting my next move. Like I said, this girl knows shes hot and I def got the feeling she felt rejected - like "I gave you an opportunity to talk and you fd up". In reality it was just me having not approached a girl like that in a loong time and freezing up. I totally got the vibe she felt she did something I didnt like. Also interesting, when I first asked about her arm she said she broke her wrist. I acted surprised bc it was only in splint then she corrected herself saying it was a sprain.
Should I just approach her next week and ask how her arm is doing and gauge her response? Im expecting the distant and cold tone from her. I already have gotten some smirks from her colleagues like she told them about it. Would it be a bad move to apologize for abruptly walking away like that and what excuse could I have for doing that? I do feel slightly less bad about it cus of how she acted the first time I tried to talk to her, but damn this girl is fine and Ive been wanting her for a long time.
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Originally Posted by blueseas123
Wow. way to blow that wayy out of proportion! How is he a racist? This is realllllyyy stretching it.
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Originally Posted by JordanJP
Jeez, way to blow a minor detail out of proportion.
I imagine he didn't think anything of adding that, like a lot of people who slip in random things during conversation.
Are you seriously telling me that the fact that they are the "two of the few whiteys in this gym" is really relavant to this story? This remark isn't an aside, he's justifying why he's into this girl and not another girl at the gym.
Are you seriously telling me that the fact that they are the "two of the few whiteys in this gym" is really relavant to this story? This remark isn't an aside, he's justifying why he's into this girl and not another girl at the gym.
I don't know if you know this, but each race has a distinct look to it. And while it'd be hard pressed to dismiss an entire race by appearance, not being attracted to a certain race isn't racist. I'm willing to bet there's certain races you don't find as attractive as others, they look different, duh.
Furthermore, it's a fact of life that in the U.S., most people tend to marry those of their own race:
It was an unnecesary mention. Again, he's using the fact that there are only a few white people to pick from to choose her.
That's racist whether you like it or not or want to accept it or not. There was absolutely no reason to say there are only a few white people at this gym while he's explaing why he choose this girl to flirt with.
And for the record, people usually have to point out comments like that to me, I very rarely see racism in my day-to-day life or in these posts. And I know I'm not oppressed, I have a college degree, a newish car and a decent paying job. His comment was racist, period.
It was an unnecesary mention. Again, he's using the fact that there are only a few white people to pick from to choose her.
That's racist whether you like it or not or want to accept it or not. There was absolutely no reason to say there are only a few white people at this gym while he's explaing why he choose this girl to flirt with.
And for the record, people usually have to point out comments like that to me, I very rarely see racism in my day-to-day life or in these posts. And I know I'm not oppressed, I have a college degree, a newish car and a decent paying job. His comment was racist, period.
CESpeed said period, it must be the end of the debate. Only her opinion is that which matters.
cloot by the way, you need to man up and ask her out. It's obvious she likes you. I'm saying this as a girl who gets frustrated when guys dont pick up the most BLATANT signals. TALK TO HER ALREADY.
Hey, that's not fair. We get frustrated when girls drop tons of little hints instead of just being up front about it.
It was an unnecesary mention. Again, he's using the fact that there are only a few white people to pick from to choose her.
That's racist whether you like it or not or want to accept it or not. There was absolutely no reason to say there are only a few white people at this gym while he's explaing why he choose this girl to flirt with.
And for the record, people usually have to point out comments like that to me, I very rarely see racism in my day-to-day life or in these posts. And I know I'm not oppressed, I have a college degree, a newish car and a decent paying job. His comment was racist, period.
If your post had any less substance I would think it was a troll, we are "danger close" to hitting Godwin's Law of the Internet.
You are calling me a troll? You just got here, check out my join date and number of posts, buddy. If you haven't noticed, the racist is the one who has yet to respond.
as far as the racist thing, I was more trying to make a point that we have something glaringly obvious in common. thats all.
I am fairly certain that she didn't like the way our conversation ended. Assuming this is the case, how do you go about approaching a girl who's feelings have just bee hurt via perceived rejection or a lack of interest on my part?
You are calling me a troll? You just got here, check out my join date and number of posts, buddy. If you haven't noticed, the racist is the one who has yet to respond.
Your postcount and perceived seniority didn't stop you from getting all in a huff about something minor.
I've met people who troll that have lots of postcount and rep on other forums, it only goes so far before it stops meaning anything.
Anyways..
OP, I suggest that you talk to her again. Make a lunch date, women seem to like those more. More formal than just getting coffee, but much less serious than a dinner date.
Go for it, I'm rootin' for ya. You're not the only one around here that misses signals.
You are calling me a troll? You just got here, check out my join date and number of posts, buddy. If you haven't noticed, the racist is the one who has yet to respond.
Seeing as you just grossly misinterpreted the OP's intentions and resorted to slander, I think an apology would be in order.
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